The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The people in alanon will understand like no one else can, they will be able to share workable solutions that worked for them, we learn to take the focus off our a's and begin to work on ourselves the only people we can change.
I came here because my life became unmanageble, I was doing the same old same old and getting nowhere, now little by little I am trying somethging new and different, I have nothing to lose and everything to gain by doing so, glad you are here x.
So glad you could join us. There is no other program with the main purpose but to help the the families of alcoholics.
We do this by giving you comfort and encouragement because we have a common problem. We all have an alcoholic in our lives. We do this by trying to live our lives, one day at a time.
Please keep coming back and we will share our experiences and hope with eachother. Whenever we make a change in our reactions to the disease of alcoholism, it can affect a change in the Alcoholic. We hope you will stay and learn a new way to live with this dreadful disease.
In Al-Anon we learn that no one can get alcoholics to get sober but themselves. If our efforts could make people stop drinking, there would be no drunks in the world. So Al-Anon helps us put the focus back on what we can control: our own selves. However, when we change, it often happens -- it maybe even always happens -- that our relationship with the alcoholic changes, and many times that means that the alcoholic changes. So the paradox is that they only change when we stop trying to change them and start to change ourselves.
Welcome, and do keep coming and read all you can -- there's lots of wisdom here.
Hello and welcome= Al-Anon is not for your husband it is for you about you . We have a part in this relationship and when u can see what that is change starts to happen . The best way to support our alcoholics in my opinion is to have a program of our own and stay out of thier stuff . Your not the reason he drinks regardless of what he may say, your not powerful enough to make anyone drink or stop. As we begin to change our attitudes and seek change for ourselves often the drinker is encouraged to follow us into his own recovery,either way life just gets better for every one involved. It only takes on person to change to create change and we cannot wait for them to see the * light *. If we want change we have to be willing to create it . Find meetings for yourself get the focus back on yourself and your life and change will happen , Al-Anon does not promise to save marriages but it does promise to return sanity to our lives .
