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I'm curious about your A's eating habits. It might help us to share, to realize that we are not alone in dealing with someone who will not sit down with the family to eat, or has other odd eating habits.
I have found it helpful to use a crockpot so that a healthy meal is usually available.
When my husband was drinking, he often didn't eat with me because if he ate something, he would be too full to drink so he used to eat just before he went to bed. He ate either salad or heat up the dinner I cooked earlier. Sometimes he ate in bed which drove me mad!
Nowadays he eats with me most of the time unless he is not hungry when dinner is ready.
He's got a very strange eating habit, he has to watch news or something that interests him. Say if news doesn't start, he waits to eat until it starts.. He's getting better but it still annoys me!
My A had Asperger's, which meant that he had a hard time with the "togetherness" of eating at the table at the same time. A lot of the time I would eat at the kitchen table and he would take his dinner to the dining room. It really underlined my sense of isolation, and I have to say I really don't miss it! Fortunately he liked cooking, so I didn't feel an obligation to cook for him. He actually was a pretty healthy eater -- apart from the massive alcohol intake.
