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My best girfriend is an alcoholic. We went on a trip together and she had a drink at lunch and dinner saying she could handle one drink. I have taken her to rehab twice and the third time she went off the wagon and called me to take her in I was in an auto accident on the way over. I know the accident is not her fault (it wasn't mine either) but if she hadn't called and been needy, I would not have been at the wrong place at the wrong time. I am so mad!! She has so many excuses for drinking, ie: the heat, her air conditioner breaking, seeing an old boyfriend. I just can't handle it anymore. I love her and she has been there for me a lot but I am sick of her trying to kill herself. What do I do??????
Being around an alcoholic can be very very difficult. One of the issues that un nerved me was the demands. The ex A made demands on me. I know many an alcoholic who made demands and I generally jumped up and ran.
Al anon can certainly help you to weigh those decisons carefully. I currently live around alcoholics and addicts. How I relate to them is very different from how I related before. One of the reasons I jumped up was that I was a people pleaser. So I couldn't merely stop jumping up, I had to look at the people pleasing.
Al anon can be a real resource for you. Why not give it a try?
Aloha Ella..."Alcoholism touches everyone it comes in contact with." This is one of the earliest pieces of information I got when I started attending Al-Anon. Maresie already gave you the best invitation you're gonna get here and I hope you give it your best shot. Inside the rooms of Al-Anon is a literature table with the best information anyone who is affected by somebody elses drinking can find. If you have been involved with this alcoholic in a seemingly supportive role several times the literature table and the meetings will be of very supportive help. I know there are tons of meetings in Arizona.
((((hugs))))
Keep coming back to MIP and read, read, read. Those who know how to best this disease are here to support. They keep the smile on my face.
Hello and welcome to MIP... I hope you will keep coming back AS Jerry pointed out alcholism or the alcholic affects everyone they come in contact with. I am sorry your friend is struggling with this disease. Having been to rehab twice she certainly knows by now where to go for help. She just has to walk into an AA meeting and will get all the help she needs. It is not your job to be her caretaker or to do for her what she can do for herself that includes taking her to another rehab. There are taxis and public transportation that can get her wherever she needs to go. And the accident really wasn't anyones fault ( except however hit you). Please find some meetings in your area Alanon will be your saving grace in dealing with your friend and frankly in all aspects in your life. So give it a try. Everyone there will completly understand what you are going through and you will receive tons of support and love. Blessings
