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My AH quit drinking 6 months ago and was doing pretty good. He had a couple of slips, one or two drinks a couple of times but was making real progress. But things have gone downhill fast the last few weeks. We are having problems with our partner who wants to sell the property which means we will have to find a new place to live. We are in Guatemala and buying this place was not easy, I hate the thought of having to go through the whole process again. Besides that, this is our dream home where we planned on spending the rest of our lives. On top of that my H confided to me about a health problem he's had but didn't tell me about sooner because he was hoping it would go away. It's not gone away, it's gotten worse and I know he's very worried about it. Which may be part of the reason he's started drinking again. Drinking as in getting drunk, not just a drink or two. So things have been kind of stressful lately. I can't worry about the property thing right now because my first concern is H's health. I did finally talk him into seeing a Dr. He went this week and has to go to the hospital next week for tests. I have put all of these problems into HP's hands and am doing my best to leave them there. But sometimes I still find myself worrying even though I know it does no good. I am managing to take care of myself through all this but could sure use some ESH and prayers too. thank you.
Aloha Pineapple...yah I know what you're talking about and where you're at mentally, emotionally and spiritually (God that's been coming up alot). Take care of the physical part of you well cause you'll need that part to support the rest until they all come back into sync...and they will. You've leared alot in a short time with less tools than most of us here so you can be grateful about that part and rely on it like you can your support system in MIP and the literature you have.
Life on life's term is a saying we have in recovery. We don't hardly ever get to call the shots; only know where the door is to HP's office which is always open. I can see that you have learned acceptance and that is how we handle best...Life on Life's terms. Life isn't always great or even good to/for us from experience however learning the stuff we learn in the program keeps us in balance.
I just got off the telephone with my daughter-in-law and the life on life's term announcement for them today is that one of their daughters, my grand daughter has fled the coop. She (my daughter-in-law) has been in all of the stuff that doesn't work and hasn't ever worked while I slipped into acceptance and program. That is where HP want's my spirit so that I can be of use rather than a pain in the butt with the problem. This is another act in the play another saga to watch another invitation to get crazy however Grandma and Grandpa are only taking invitations to listen when they are appropriate and to make the same suggestion we have always made which is what has worked for us. We will not verify any of the players while they are doing what doesn't work because that will result in more of the same.
So I got prayers for you and your alcoholic and my grand-daughter and family. Prayers are all I have and HP already knows them. I pray he stops drinking cause I know that alcohol makes his problem worse and I pray that his problem won't get worse and isn't that major to begin with. I pray that Pineapple will remain in peace and balance. (((((hugs)))))
I am so sorry that your husband's health has taken a difficult turn It sounds as if you have taken the right actions and being human you are concerned about th outcome.
As Jerry said, you have come a long way without all the tools that most of us have available. Please keep using these tools as they have served you well. Live one Day at a Time, First Things First, Pray the Serenity Prayers . Just note that the prayers asks God to: Grant us Serenity, Courage and Wisdom. With these three gifts we can handle life on life's terms
You are practicing the program, taking care of yourself, and put all your concerns in HP's hands. From my view point that's three for three. Continue and you can't go wrong.
You are and your husband will continue be in my thoughts and prayers.
HUGS, RLC
-- Edited by RLC on Thursday 2nd of September 2010 03:32:52 PM
