The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have to give credit to my therapist. I'm beginning to think my HP (I can't believe I'm saying this, given my moods recently but this board and program are infectious!) placed this particular person in my life because she is exactly what I need. She has a perky, upbeat, lively personality and seems able to strike a nice balance between being warm and supportive and being blunt and direct. She recently hit me between the eyes with a statement that seemed right of our literature. I dont' remember the exact words but it encompassed the ideas that: 1. I give outside things (including people) too much power over me and my emotions. 2. That I allow my self worth and esteem to be directed by things outside myself, or my accomplishments (or lack of). 3. That I have the power to create my own happiness (and ergo the challenge that I have to take at least some responsibility for my happiness or unhappiness).
She was right on. And her timing of when to hit me with stuff like that is impeccable. I walked out thinking this through and began reading passages in the literature dealing with this stuff. She was absolutely on the mark, and it began to dawn on me that i do have some control over this, that I'm not a helpless victim.
Sounds like you allowed the locked door to your mind and spirit to be opened and then taken out. As in the ending statement at the closing of our face to face meeting states, "If you keep and open mind you will find help." I'm grateful too.
I know this isn't very "recovery" but it made me smile. Thought I would share it, got it off of facebook believe it or not.
You are doing great. I love the way you listen and turn everything over and give it lots of thought. I like your growth.
One evening a Cherokee elder told his son about the battle that goes on inside people's heads. He said, "My son, the battle is between the 2 wolves that live inside us all. One is Happiness. The other is Unhappiness." The son thought about it for a minute and then asked, "Which wolf wins?" He replied, "The one you feed."
tlc
-- Edited by tlcate on Monday 30th of August 2010 05:29:52 PM
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