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anger: a dubious luxury I can't afford! I am one of those that are mentioned when dealing with anger although I am working on it! I also had trouble w/ my pet! I almost lost it almost 2 years ago when my cat destroyed an area of my home--long story! anyhow, I am working on the profanity that I mentioned before a few postings ago! That's it; more to come later, of course! Kathleen P.S. CTC--Courage to Change reading!
kathleen: I've been working on the issue of being overloaded which is when I tend to find my pets an issue. I have decided to be responsible to myself rather than try to do everything I think I should be doing. Right now its a 100 degrees out so I am not killing myself with the issue huge list of To Do's.
I used to do a lot of swearing and found it fed into the rage. I try to stop now if I have the urge to go there. I know it doesn't help and is just a way of prolonging the upset.
For me it is about loosing control over something or person. If I am not able to jump into that 3 to 4 seconds between what triggers me and how I react, and there find my HP...God as I understand God...I'm a gonner for the moment and hopefully will not have a major apology and financial loss to boot. This by the way is also why anger is so prevelant in Alcoholism...loss of control + plus fear... ((((hugs))))
I get really angry at other drivers and traffic jams. This past weekend while I moved, I gave it to my higher power when there were THREE traffic jams that we were stuck in for about a half hour each on the way to my new place... Once I let go, HP guided me to a calm awareness. I was able to get through and didn't even worry about how long it was taking to get to the new place... BREATHE....
