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Well this was a weekend from hell in my home. My son lost another good friend. Saturday evening one of my son's friends came over and was a little wasted. He asked if he could stay I said, sure....next thing I knew he was passed out in the chair.....was sitting in the other living room talking with Zach for about 10 minutes....went to check on Chuck and he was not breathing.....Zach did CPR until the ambulance came which seemed forever....it was too late....they even said it was probably too late by the time we called.
I am sorry for him mom as she is going thru something that we all hope and pray will never happen to us.
My son and another friend went to his house to tell his mom what had happened. I have said this before: It is said that God does not give you more than you can handle. Not sure I beleive that at all....my 18 year old son lost a dad and two best friends in the past 3 years two of which were due directly to drugs and alcohol the other a quad accident.
When does all of the pain and anger and hurt stop and when does the rainbow shine.
Please say a prayer for his family that God helps them make it through and please say a prayer for my son as he is already on the edge. I am at a loss.
(((((Andrea)))))...yes it continues and still we have found hope here and in Al-Anon. Give her what you've found for yourself...the addresses to the meetings and to MIP. She belongs already. ((((hugs))))
Andrea: What a tremendous amount of stress for you. I am concerned that your son's friends are doing a lot of drugs and alcohol. Does he consider getting more healthy people around him or is his bond there with addicts. I know mine was for years. Boundaries are very hard to teach when children have been around alcoholism.
So Sorry for Your Loss as well as your Son & the Family... Keep the Faith Girl, You have showed me on more then one occassion that you are strong, and that hasn't changed...
I Agree your Son will Heal as you do... As they follow Close to our Heals, Even when they are hurting.. Take Care of Yourself, and HP Will help with the Rest...
I am sorry for another loss to this powerful disease. My prayers for you, Zach and Chuck's family. My hope also is that his Mother finds her way in time to the Al-Anon program.
If only this world were without drugs and alcohol............If only.
I'm just plain angry at this. I'm being polite here, but I'm really really mad at the disease. No young man should have to attempt to breath life into the lungs of his friend! Damn it I'm angry!
Ok. Now I'll breath.
The power of this disease can bring us to our knees if we let it. Maybe that's where we need to be to hear our HPs will for us. My MIL told me she was so angry at the fact that God took her son, my husband. Her priest told her it's ok to tell God how you feel about his plan sometimes. He encouraged her to go outside and throw old plates at the fence and tell God how mad she was. She did this and then felt guilty instantly. Her priest told her that God understands.
It is not written anywhere that God doesn't give you more then you can handle (so please don't feel you were "given" this trauma).
I recall it being said to me after the loss of my daughter, so I have a bit of a personal opinion of it. Honestly, I wanted to clock the person in the face. How dare they tell me I am expected to "handle" it. Let alone that it was given to me! I also recall looking them in the eyes and saying two words...Bull ****!!! They probably meant well, but I bet they thought about it before they said it again. Personally, I think it's a dumb saying. What are the options if people don't "handle it" it in some way? Insanity? If that would happen (which it does), I guess people DID get more then they could handle. Then what do they say? " It was just more then they could handle".
I guess what I'm saying is, you do whatever it takes to get through this and don't feel as if there is some standard you have to meet.
Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
Words can be sharp and go directly to the heart. I do believe God gives us what we need to handle "it"; but we are human.....and sometimes it simply is too much for us to handle. That's why we have God.
Words seem to be rather pointless at such a tragic event, unless we believe that at least ONE person out there will learn from this pointless loss of life... Ugh....
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
