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Was getting ready to go to my f2f meeting. Bf asked "Why are you going to those f*****ing meetings anyway?" Thanks to alanon I answered "Because I choose to."
Yes, I had other answers in my head that were sarcastic but I didn't go that way.
That question was still bothering me at my meeting and I had trouble focusing. I felt like leaving because I didn't seem to be getting anything out of any shares.
Wrong! Just then someone did a reading and shared and it was exactly what I needed to hear. It did make me feel worse but I needed to hear it as I could relate. This has really opened my eyes and I'm glad I went.
I've heard it said many times, there's usually something at a meeting that we need to hear and we can relate to and I was right where I was supposed to be.
Usually I feel better after a meeting, this time I don't but that's ok.
I believe things happen for a reason. Today happened for a reason too.
I'm thankful for Alanon and all it's members because without it I would still feel stuck.
I think lots of times when our A's see us growing (working our program) they feel threatened especially if they are not working a program. His disease is controlling his mind, body, and spirit, but but you are getting better.
Buick you are doing the right thing for you. Stick with what is working for you and there is a good chance he will want what you got and seek the help he needs. That's his choice.....you have already made the right choice for yourself. Going to your f2f meeting and hearing what you needed to hear proved that.
It's okay to let them fear threatened and fearful. They have to work that out for themselves and you did real well. I would also be a bit (LOL) inclined toward some sarcasm myself just to keep up the practice but staying out of it is so much more better on my peace of mind and serenity. My alcoholic did at one time think that the meetings were "F...ing" meetings, thinking that all kinds of x rated sharing was going on. Sick and fearful is normal to the disease. Glad you stayed for the miracle. ((((Hugs))))
A couple months ago my wife found out that I was attending al-anon. Her spontaneous response was, My f****** party is over now.Then she burst into tears and pleaded with me not to go.
I was just talking with her (my aw) an hour ago and she told me I should have started al-anon 10 years ago. lol, What a change!
It sounds like you are doing great, keep working it!
I was proud of my growth, when I could see that I was walking away and not engaging with them, not losing my cool - it was a relief not to be on the emotional roller coaster anymore.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
My boyfriend gets a kick out of it when I say a slogan or quote or read from Courage to Change. He doesn't get upset with me, but I really don't think he has any idea what Alanon is really about, and I tell him its all about me. He smiles when I say that. I know its hard, but you are doing great!
My husb asked me that once along time ago I just looked at him and said Arent you an alcoholic anymore ??? he grumbled and laughed never asked me again . he wasnt attending meetings at the time either .. started shortly after that , = go figure .
way to work it for YOU!!! 
I just looked at him and said Arent you an alcoholic anymore ??? he grumbled and laughed never asked me again . he wasnt attending meetings at the time either .. started shortly after that , = go figure .