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Years ago a friend taught me how to go thru the steps quickly when ever a dilema presented itself , that has saved me alot of grief . At a round up one weekend the speaker said , some days the chaos is so overwhelming that 12 steps just are too much so he gave us his formula for 4 steps which have also served me well
1-Start from where your at * right now*
2 - step out in confidence
3- do what u have to do gracefully
4 EXPECT GODS help. ( I thought he said accept Gods help) he said no EXPECT big difference in interpetation .
He also added work a good program your gonna need it to survive the fellowhip . hehe love it
My sponsor used to accuse me of over-analyzing and complicating things too much.... He told me if the 12 Steps seemed too overwhelming, then break them into four broader categories.....
I always thought that was a helpful hint.... T
Steps 1-3 "GIVE up"
Steps 4-6 "FESS up"
Steps 7-9 "MAKE up"
Steps 10-12 "KEEP up"
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
These are both good! I love the give up, fess up, make up, keep up. Now all I have to do is make a funny acronym and i will share it with my group (citing my source of course!) GFMK, need a few vowels... gufumuk if in doubt, gufumuk! Sorry, a bit silly, just got back from a fun F2F meeting. Thanks both for these good suggestions.