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My son decided no military (thank you God), don't misunderstand I think the people who fight every day to save our country are above all of us and I have great respect for them.
I just don't want my son that far gone for than long (selfish but I don't care).
I thought my son was doing drugs. In fact I was sure of it. Went to Wal-Mart bought a test and I was wrong....(amen).
Now I know there are things you can take that are out of your system very quickly but I am praying that he is not doing anything and that it was just depression.
This is a tough month for my family and it gets me down at times we lost a husband and father and my son lost a brother.
He got a job...which is good..he is unsure of what he wants to do with his future as of yet and that's ok he did just graduate.
As long as he can make his car payment that is all I ask of him right now. He has many opportunities available to him I am sure he will decide in his own time. And that is ok.
I will just try and keep the communication open and keep praying. He is a good kid with a loving heart. I can only hope and pray that he stays that way.
So if you don't mind how about some prayers for him to keep him on the right path.
I can totally relate - are we living the same life?????? Maybe on different time frames, but boy I feel I'm you and you're me sometimes!!!!
My son graduated this year also - he has not considered the military (although they seem to be working hard to get him to do so), but is not clear on his future. It seemed like such a miracle that he made it through High School. His grades suffered terribly after his father died in January, he was like an electrical wire that has been cut down, seeming to be safe, but everynow and then wildly flying around and very dangerous.....He had a bad car accident before he graduated. I worried about drugs, although I saw no signs of it and a test at the hospital revealed no drugs in his system - he tested positive for being a teenage boy though
So the way I'm thinking about this is that I have another opportunity to apply the principles of alanon in all my affairs. Although my son may not be an addict, my codependancy can adversely affect his life. I am no more in control of my 18 year old son, than I was of my 49 year old husband. I can only live my life one day at a time, offer him my love (always) and my example, and not bale him out of the challenges. Easy to write, hard to do! He's running out of money and hasn't found a job yet. I think the running out of money will help him find a job HP is telling me to step back on it....he needs to run out of cash.
Went and bought a new drug test an I am saddend to say I was right on the money.
I am trying to cool down and think, he can no longer lie about it as I proved it today. He has always lied and denied but right now he can not.
I am not going to blame, hollar, scream none of it. He is 18, I have no control over his actions.
I will not enable, he said, I'll just leave I said there is the door but the car stays here. I didn't say things mean but I without a doubt said what I meant.
He was with his pill head friend again today so when he came home I was ready and he was busted shocked the shat out of him.
He tested positive for pot and a couple of other things.
I told him, I lost your dad to this and I will not stand by and loose you. You have a choice and all I can do is pray you make the right one.
