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Taking to AD last evening she sounded soo down.Talking so about her situation.Wanted so much to fly up there wrap her in a nice soft baby blanket and bring her home and tuck her in. Always rescued her cant do it anymore.This time it is up to her.She said the last time she was thinking her and ex would get back toget.Not going to happen I think she is accepting it at least she says so.Can only believe her she is now talking about Noah & Ty (sons) trying to concentrate ongetting her life bk toget.This time it may work she is doing it for herself I told her recovery would be the best gift shecould give herself. her Bday is July 25 She has plans for whenshe gets out of detox on Friday at lest she has a place to go and with AA friends. I finally accept she has a terrible disease, it may go into remission, she may have a relapse, she may chose to not take her meds but ultimately it is her choice. I have to accept the fact she may not get better.But its her life and she is the only one who gets to choose how its lived.I have no power over her life.I can only prepare for the worse hope for the best.|HP grant my strength to deal. Whatever happens is not up to me.Its her and her hp. Remember the serenity prayer. And no expectations.
-- Edited by tlcate on Wednesday 21st of July 2010 11:01:17 AM
Welcome to the MIP Family! We are so glad you found us. I am sorry you are experiencing this with your daughter right now. My qualifier is not my child so I can not say I understand what you are going through. It is hard enough as a parent to not save them from everday life!
We have many parents here who are here because of their children and I am sure can offer more Experience, Strength & Hope (ESH) than I can. I am just so glad you found us. It sounds as though you may have some experience with Al-Anon and I look forward to hearing your journey of recovery.
Please keep coming back. We have a chat room where we also host 2 online meetings a day. Please feel free to join us.
Tricia
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Aloha (((((Makey))))) good decision...send your HP to do for you what you cannot do by yourself. My HP knows I'm directing it your way also for more support (doesn't that sound rational...HP's helping HP's?) Anyway Welcome to the MIP family and please do stick around. Others will be coming by to welcome you also and share love and compassion....oh and suggestions also which come from what worked for us. If you haven't already gotten into the face to face meeting rooms of the Al-Anon Family Groups for support I'd like to suggest that. The number for your information is in the white pages of your local telephone book under Al-Anon. Give them a call if you already haven't
Your post showed amazing acceptance of your powerlessness over your daughter's addiction, a belief in a HP and a willingness to let HP take the reigns. Step 1. Step 2. and Step 3. all in one post. Of course, it doesn't take away the pain of seeing someone you love dearly be jerked around by this disease. I hope you will find face to face meetings and keep coming back here so you can learn about and apply the rest of the steps and tools to help you deal with what is without doubt, the toughest thing I've ever dealt with. You are among friends here who will offer encouragement and support.
