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Hi my name is Mary D.I go to the just 4 today group in my home town of Newberry Mi Friday nights 7 pm.I am alternating weekends here is Sault Ste marie Mi.So I dont get to meetings like I should.My other half has been in the AA program 29 years July 7.We have been together 15 years July 1.I am telling you this because I did not think I needed Al-Anon.TC told me different.In my niavity I assumed(my family has a saying about that) that since TC was doing HIS program and in recovery I didnt need to be in this Al-Anon thing.(how many people felt this way)I know how wrong I was .I need this but also realize that TC Does need his program. I am taking things a day at a time and a step at a time with my recovery.We have had meetings close and new ones open up so i kinda know the ropes on being a newbie per say.I have been attending intergroups in the upper michigan area(newberry over to Iron mountain mi). I am sorry for taking up so much time.Now you know ALOT about me. Mary D
Good morning Mary glad you are here, my husband has been sober four years without programme really, and I have possibly found this the greatest challenge of my entire life, I thought when they put down the drink that was it job done, we had kind of a honey moon period possibly the first year and then it gradually went down hill from there, it's taken me four years to understand a little of why that is, You see when my husband decided to stop I had all ready decided I wanted out, I was sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, then I felt guilty because I kind of felt he was saying look I did this for you and your still not happy? That statement was every true, he was sober and I was still not happy, I am only just able after thirty years of marriage to see some cut off point where he finishes and I begin, this is not about him but me, I could go on and on but this is your journey and I know you came to a place where if you are willing and keep an open mind you will find the answers you are searching for, much love please keep coming back!
so Kathy, why do you stay, after all this is not a dress rehersal, its time to be happy. Oh and I am not judging, I`m in the same boat and knocking myself on the head asking me why why, it would be so much simpler alone.........
Hello Mary and welcome . and you didnt take up so much time . Your absolutley right your not the only one who thought it was his stuff why did u have to go to meetings I was not impressed hehe. We have 20 yrs sobreity in my home and I still go to 3 meetings aweek ,husb is still alcoholic and we simply dont think alike our solutions to problems are not the same at all , so I go to keep my head on straight ,there are so many postitive changes in my home , today I know I am a fixer and will die a fixer but here I learned when to stop and allow people the dignity to make thier own choices and to mind my own business support them and accept where thier at . Al-Anon has improved all of my relationships this is a program for living my life . we have meetings on this site daily at 9am and pm eastern time , hope to see u there . Louise
I was not impressed hehe. We have 20 yrs sobreity in my home and I still go to 3 meetings aweek ,husb is still alcoholic and we simply dont think alike our solutions to problems are not the same at all , so I go to keep my head on straight ,there are so many postitive changes in my home , today I know I am a fixer and will die a fixer but here I learned when to stop and allow people the dignity to make thier own choices and to mind my own business support them and accept where thier at . Al-Anon has improved all of my relationships this is a program for living my life . we have meetings on this site daily at 9am and pm eastern time , hope to see u there . Louise