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So he says if there is no tea i might have to drink a beer. I would have freaked out about that years ago and now I can just think to myself, if u wanna beer have a beer. whatever. I see the blaming me here again. if you don't make tea, I blame you for drinking a beer.
Really I can laugh about it and I'm not falling for it either. Guess I've learned a few things.
I view that as a threat my husb did that to me once and I reminded him that threats are abusive and to not say anything like that to me again , if he wanted to talk about booze go to a meeting where they understand - did I over react ? probably , but on the other hand he never said anything like that to me again .
Very nice ((buick)) I love those moments in all my affairs that make me pause and wonder what the other person is talking about instead of feeling responsible for the sky falling .. if for example there is no tea. It still scares me that I could be so wrapped up in a situation that those threats or blame game comments used to make me jump.
