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I haven't been around here for a while, but I thought I would give an update. I was married to my AH for 10.5 years, all of which he struggled with his disease. Once he sought help I hoped and prayed for his sobriety, only to be disappointed over and over. I finally asked him to leave in December '08. He has been sober since the day he left and he has lost 100lbs. He is doing great but I decided I didn't want to reconcile because I wouldn't take the risk that "some day" he would drink again. After almost 8 months of negotiation he finally signed our property settlement agreement yesterday, which means my divorce will be final within a month.
The finality of this is a little bittersweet. I am happy that he is doing well, but I am resentful that it took splitting up for him to make the change. I have met the man of my dreams who I am looking forward to marrying, but I am annoyed that the first man I married didn't turn out to be what I had hoped.
Glad to see ya! I do relate. The divorce was final here last month.
I am sooo happy you met someone!! I believe you should tell us all about him and let us see if "we" approve! haha
Seriously if you can let it go. It was not him, it is the disease. Thank goodness he is getting some good time. Hey he may never relapse!
It had to be more than you could not go thru that again. So I hope you don't feel badly. I know for me, it was I did not like the lack of laughter, the complaining. I saw many things that I knew I could not live with.
The Adultery was the last straw. yuck.
Anyway! I cannot tell you how happy I am and am soo glad you are back to share. deb
