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My AH went to work at 6:30 am. and is not home yet, he called and said he had to work late today. It is now 10:30 p.m. I've been sitting here fretting and worrying about if he is still at work or if he "fell off the wagon." I have completed every task I could think of while "waiting" for him to come home... I reached for one of my alanon books and today's lesson really hit home for me. It stated "Powerless over alcohol" also says to me "If I am powerless over it, why do I keep trying to exert my power over another person's drinking?" It also means "Let go of your clutching hold on the problem. Let go and let the Divine Power, which works in all things, work in this, too." Or, more simply, to mind my own business. These books really talk to me and seemto know when I need it... and with that, I am going to bed. Peace.
Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain.
Your not Sweet Stanley anymore....change your name to Sweet Dreams.
So sweet dreams to you....who would have known that a few pages out of your Al-Anon book would be better and quicker than.................................Sominex ?
HUGS, RLC
-- Edited by RLC on Monday 12th of July 2010 11:16:54 PM
Sweet Stanley - your message hit home with me today. I'm still checking the bottle to see how much he's drunk today. I need to just let that go. What difference does it make if it's a little or a lot? Tomorrow it may be more or less. It really means nothing since I am powerless over how much he drinks. I am finding that minding my own business isn't one of my strong points. Thanks for sharing your insight. I also love your quote. I am going to write that one down so I will remembe it! ((((Hugs)))). JennyP
Nights like those make me glad I have a sponsor to call if I'm getting really squirrely and recognize it. Time for a sanity-check, and my sponsor or another Al-Anon member can do the trick for me. My sponsor also recommends if I'm really feeling miserable to call someone else who I know has been having problems and see how THEY are doing - gets me out of my head for sure, and can keep me from getting myself into trouble.
Reading and off to sleep is the best thing that could have been done in that situation. An overheating mind just causes problems later on.
And I was also thinking of my situation with my STBX-AW and I thinking that I would want your situation, with the A out of the house. When my A is drinking, she won't move out of the same room.
Thanks for all your replies. The good news is that he WAS still at work and I worried needlessly. I was also pleased that I DID go to bed and was sleeping in minutes. I guess RLC, that minding my business DID work better than Sominex! THAT was a big step for me as far as minding my own business. I know that it would probably be beneficial to have a sponsor but I haven't found anybody that I have "clicked" with yet that I would be comfortable calling. I'm still looking, haven't given up. Thanks again.
I was also pleased that I DID go to bed and was sleeping in minutes. I guess RLC, that minding my business DID work better than Sominex!