The material presented
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If anyone remembers me...no I can't go f2f meetings..it would be 150 mile round trip. Adult son who is my a is still waiting for a bed. By the way.. he is going to a recovery house for 30 days. They use the 12 steps. But they also use R.o.p.e.s program. Does anyone know about the ropes? My A son is still living alone, can't be trusted w/our vechicle[he doesn't own one].Has no way to go anywhere. He only calls when he needs food. The recovery house will not accept him if he has been drinking 72hrs prior. He is seeing no one, and talking to no one but me and my husband. Recovery house is not a detox. What do you think? I have been in on a few of your meeting and chat.
A prayer that he will go and this maybe a start for him to get on the path of recovery. The twelve steps is a gateway to dealing with their addictions, if only they (and we) will work it, I pray your son will.
Please come back and let us know how things are going for you.
I can only imagine how painful it must be to have a child gripped by the disease. One of my greatest fears. How wonderful you have a recovery house lined up. I am not sure, but I am guessing that Ropes refers to having a Ropes course which involves challenging outdoor activities for team-building and personal development (climbing, ziplines, that sort of thing). If you google Ropes Course you can read more about it. Hopefully you'll get to find out really soon.
Hang in there. We are glad you are here.
Blessings,
Lou
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Dual response here I do not think you are from outer space, I have often wondered if I am though! I am sorry for not at least saying hello prior to this. I've had a introspective couple of weeks I guess. And to be honest, it is sometimes hard for me to know what to say to the parents of addicted persons. I have never been a parent and I definitely did not do it right with my x inlaws, didn't speak to me for the last 2 years of my marriage ... but those are my issues. I do know what it is like to love an alcoholic and that is the important part.
I could be wrong but I believe ROPES is an adventure based self esteem, trust, confidence, substance abuse type treatment. I remember in my teens there being places that promoted catching kids before they fell thru the cracks by going to camp settings that had obstacle course ideas. Teamwork to build a bridge, being guided blinfolded over a rope bridge, climbing to the top of a structure. I'm sure there have been advances since then in the application but probably the same principle idea.
I do not think you are from outer space, I have often wondered if I am though! I am sorry for not at least saying hello prior to this. I've had a introspective couple of weeks I guess. And to be honest, it is sometimes hard for me to know what to say to the parents of addicted persons. I have never been a parent and I definitely did not do it right with my x inlaws, didn't speak to me for the last 2 years of my marriage ... but those are my issues. I do know what it is like to love an alcoholic and that is the important part.