The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
But how then can we do that, well for me it happened when you get sick and tired of being sick and tired, first of all you need a huge dose of acceptence of what is and not what you would like it to be, my a will not hug me or see my pain, he doesn't with anyone he is very closed, I did take it personally untill I learnt he cannot give what he doesn't have!
Choices! now then with all that I know, if I don't accept I will resent yuck resentment is not a good feeling, humlility helpd and gratitude for all thas good and there is tons of good stuff.
I think Christy says the a cannot come home to an old idea, that is true, and I cannot live with an old idea, so there are two people that need to really draw a line and either move on or start a fresh.
This programme takes time to absorb, and it's brilliant because everybody is right where there supposed to be!
I agree with the thinking comment you made, Katy. We just can't solve these problems with the same level of thinking.
That's where our HP is so gracious to come in, if I will let Him, to change my way of thinking.
Maybe that's why some people say, "Attitude is everything", not in a condemning way, just to say that our approach to a problem can change without the world falling apart.
And then, when our approach changes, eventually the situation changes.
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PunkyJen
Abe Lincoln said, "Most people are just as happy as they make up their minds to be."
Another favorite: "Every minute is another chance to turn it around."
Good post and it layed a memory out in front of me that has stayed with me from the night I first heard it at my for real, first AFG meeting.
When the meeting is about to close and the secretary is reading the closing statement...sit quietly and focus on the statement, "If you keep and open mind you will find help." I learned how to do that...open it wide and let those who reached serenity and remembered how to get back to it over and over again coming into my mind and leave their experiences, strengths and hopes and road maps too. Be humble...let other members teach you and you will arrive at other levels of thinking.
Awesome topic sentence and post. I am going to include that topic sentence in a letter to my son. I am sure it will give him something to think about. Thanks ! Blessings in recovery
Oh, that is so true. When I first came here I had trouble practicing the steps and learning to let go. But I started doing the actions even if I didn't always understand the why of it. Eventually I began to understand and accept a different way of thinking about things. And it works!
