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lyndebi


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blankstare I think I forgot to share, after being here since was it 2000? The judge signed the papers on June 11,2010.

When I took the papers in, I overheard someone telling another,"no you cannot file them with highlighted areas."

oh noooooo! You bet I highlighted, poor dipstick, I say that in humore, he just could not follow a large map to the barn 200 feet away now.

I talk to HP pleeeaaaassse I decide ok that's it, if they give me any grief, I am going to share I am disabled, he is brain damaged, you will take this right?

Well it is done.

Really is, I feel nothing for him. I care of course. I am back to my "norm,my familiar." Which is pretty cool.My own home,vehicles, no one to bump heads with,no one to suck the life out of me.

Well except Fred my 100+ pound sulcata tortoise who has his own bedroom here....(c: Which he makes clear he deserves..

Honestly I feel so healthy to not have any ties to him at all. Feel like the way I always have been in most of my life.Confidant, intelligent, drop things, stubborn, happy, clean, very healthy, I feel back to me.

(c:  Have made a bunch of my goals. My daughter and I are back to being close. Al Anon skills and people here gave me the tools for that. I do have health obstacles, however, have gone down 3 sizes,am a vegan, and just recently got off sugar, my addiction. doing my best to get my bp down.

I take my service dog, Fezzik everywhere with me, however, he is a  Pom, now is that MORE stress or is it lowering my bp???? If you know Poms,you know what I mean, they suck the life out of you. lol

My name is back to McPhate. Now I gotta go "buy" my own frigging certified papers and change everything legally for a bazillion dollars.

I feel like ya do when ya first look at the ocean, feel the breeze and smell the air. I am home.

debilyn



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(((Deb)))

"I feel like ya do when ya first look at the ocean, feel the breeze and smell the air. I am home".

What a wonderful place to be, and even better Deb, we are both on the top side of the dirt.

Flying Pig HUGS.......inside joke everyone.
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(((((((((((((((((DEB))))))))))))))

Way to stick it out & get'r Done Deb.. I"m happy that you have found a "New" journey in life & that you get to share it with your Daughter & your Tortois, & your Crazy Pom :) (Speculating =) lol...

Your strength & growth in this program has been a Blessing to me so Thank You As Well for ALways being here :)

N in regards to "My" Post... I like your Idea of Strap'n My "Fatboy" to the bike & takin him instead of the Husband :) Hummmm Is this Good Or Bad....lol...

Enjoy your weekend Love & Prayers pray.gif

Jozie

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(((Deb)))

I am so happy you are happy! Tonight when the moostiff and I dance, we'll spin and wag/shake a special one for you smile.gif

Every once in awhile I get a letter with my married name on it and I can almost hear my thoughts of, oh yeah I remember her ... wonder what happened to her? LOL I know she has become me!

Much love and a big slobbery smooch.

Jen

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Wow what peace and serenity you have found...there is no better feeling than looking at that beautiful ocean and that breeze just blowing on your body.

Congrates Deb, keep up the good work.

With Hope,
Andrea

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I feel like ya do when ya first look at the ocean, feel the breeze and smell the air. I am home.

Progress and positivity, thanks for sharing Ms. McPhate.........brill wink !

(((((((hugs))))))) Ness x



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Congrats on finding your serenity and on getting close with daughter.
I'd like a little advice on how you achieved reconnecting the closness with your daughter.
My daughter decided to detach ( without love) a couple of years ago. I was going through a deep depression ( diagonsed with PTSD) and my son was sinking deeper into his addiction. She saw a mother she didn't know anymore... not the mother that was strong, confident, in control and out going. She saw a mom that could barely make it from one day to the next and blames me for letting her little brother sink into addiction.
I have tried to talk to her about alanon and when she allows us to see her I try to show her I am recovering etc but it never seems enough. As though she feels I haven't sufferred enough for my transgrestions.
Anyway and suggestions would be appreciated
Blessings

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maresie


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I am glad you are relieved.  I did not marry the ex A but leaving him and severing all the ties was one of the hardest things I have ever done.  I no longer miss him but there are times when I am not sure how I am going to get myself out of the "hole" he left me in, financially, emotionally and physically.

Maresie.

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