The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I found this yrs ago and kept it in my wallet for along time as a reminder, seems to me that I still need it in my wallet . ------------------------------------------------------------ It is only natural for me to want to share what works for me with those I love . But when I must share it NOW I may be more interested in changing others than sharring my experience , strength and hope. If I am insistant on carrying the message I can work on improving the message my own example conveys .
---------------------------------------------------------- We ought not to insist on everyone following in our footsteps nor take it upon ourselves to give instructions in spirituality when, perhaps we do not even know what it is .
It is so refreshing to know, we are not here to change anyone, we are here to share our experiences, places of support, literature. But that is all we are to do. It is up to others to decided what to do with it.
We did our part. Then we hang around to catch them a few times, then givem a shove back out there.Assuring,"you can do it." deb
I just had a call yesterday from someone whom I have been hoping would try Al-Anon, with a seed planting from me years ago, asking me about what lit to buy after she had just sat through her first meeting!!!
I had to reign myself way back and suggest a couple of books...and have tried real hard NOT to call her and check back in!!!
I learned the hard way recently. I gave someone my ES&H. Afterwards I realized I was using my ES&H to direct them in a way "I" thought they should go. Later after I soul searched about it, I felt terrible and beat my self up. It was what "I" knew was right.......but only right for "me". I am not that persons HP. I got back in touch and made amends, and was told my amends were not necessary. No matter. It was necessary for me !!
Later I told this experience to someone in the program I have great respect for, and was told that I didn't crash and burn, that crash and burn was only for intentional bad pilots and I didn't qualify. So I was finally was able to quit beating myself up and crawl out of my hole. Progress not perfection.
Thanks abbyal. I have gotten in a lot of trouble and damaged many relationships with my opinion of what they should do. Only because I did it and it worked for me. I need to make amends.
I found this yrs ago and kept it in my wallet for along time as a reminder, seems to me that I still need it in my wallet .
