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I'm feelin nervous . MY son says he call recovery house today. They say there is still a big list for him not to worry- sure they won't worry. Say they will send letter when opening comes. I wonder if he even called? or am I getting paranoid??
There is a good chance he is lying , but nothing u can do about that , find a meeting and take care of yourself . Even if house is full there are AA or NA meetings where he will find the help and support he needs .if he is serious he will crawl thru glass to find a meeting . not all alcoholics or addicts have to have a treatment centre to recover . you are the only person u have any control over take back your life , u need support .
At this time -this as close to HELP- as I can get. I don't know if this will work with me. I'm feeling discouraged. I don't know what he's willing to do. I know he has filled out paperwork to go there. He has no job, no friends, suspended D.L. -I will be his driver to necessary places he has to go. I live twenty miles from him. He is in a remote location- with no close neighbors . I have medical problems and live on a fixed income.
Hi, ((((okwitt)))) I wish I had the power to tell you that all will be well for both you and your son, but unfortunately, no one can do that. What I can tell you is that if you keep coming back here, you will find support and love and encouragement and the resources you need to start taking back control of your life. And, again, just from my own experience, there is a Higher Power who loves you and wants you to stop hurting. He WILL lead you in the direction you need to go IF YOU LET HIM! Not only will he give you the answers you are seeking, He will carry you when you are unable to walk on your own. But you have to give it over to him and you have to listen to the answers He gives you, even if they aren't what you want to hear.
One of the (many) things I got from this site is the following saying, which I now find myself repeating several times throughout my day:
I didn't cause it. I can't control it. I can't cure it.
Abbyall is SO right- you ARE the only person you have any control over. And you deserve to be happy, so please do waht ever you can to start getting your life back for yourself.
You will be in my prayers. Please keep coming back and let us know how things are going.
"The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time."
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"The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time."
For now possibly u could attend our meetings on line , til u can get to a real meeting. our chat room is open 24 -7 u will also find help there .. your not alone anymore . am sorry for your dilema but u need to start taking care of yourself , mentally and physically and financially ,your son is old enough to work pumping gas is better than doing nothing again as long as we continue to provide what they should be doing for themselves nothing will change .. This disease dosent care if it takes your last dollar it wants what it wants .. It broke my heart to see my own mother stuggle with alcoholism with my brother and his wife , she just didnt understand .. conitnue to share here get to meetings here if u can , and remember that your son has a Higher Power of his own he will take care of him . Louise NEVER GIVE UP HOPE there is always hope .
-- Edited by abbyal on Tuesday 22nd of June 2010 01:08:03 PM
Thanks "Never Going Back" for responding! For years now 24/7 I have been trying to fix all my sons problems until I don't have an identity. I will listen to you all and start my healing. It's years of wrong- I'm thinking this is going to be slow.
-- Edited by okwitt on Wednesday 23rd of June 2010 03:19:51 PM
You didn't get here overnight and you won't heal overnight. It does take time, but is so worth it.
The truth is that everyone is responsible for their own recovery or lack of. As much as we'd like to 'help' others recover, we really can't. The best we can do is be really healthy ourselves. The best gift that you can give your son is an emotionally healthy parent. Good luck.
I did'nt cause, cure or control it, but it looks like I,m gonna hurt the rest of my life because of it. Attended one of you're online meetings, reading posts but...............................................
I understand how your feel and the pain and sadness that surounds you.
PLease keep coming back and pick up some simple tools that will help to relieve some of the acute sadness you are feeling. Yes you may always feel a deep sadness because of this disease, but there is hope and you will feel serenity as well.
Use the tools, show up, share, live one moment at a time, and know you arre not alone
I am having the same problem.. Adult A son living next door. I am his taxi to and from work and I fear today he is hung over from drinking during his 3 days off and will not make work. He is not answering my calls or text so I have to let it go. He knows how to reach me and if he does not go to work and gets fired, I did not cause it. Good luck and will keep you in my prayers. This is the hardest thing I have faced in my 57 years of life.
