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Have just returned from hospital appointment with AH. Consultant said that the condition of AH's liver would not in itself cause the constant diarrhoea and vomiting which he has been experiencing over last 2 months or so. He thinks "there's something else going on" and wanted to admit him there and then (for tests and to keep him away from his brandy!). AH refused, said he needed time. So Cons is to ask his secretary to arrange an urgent admission through the admissions office. I reckon this will be within the week.
So - bittersweet, really. Means I was right to press GP to refer him instead of him just telling AH he must stop drinking and all would be well if he complied. But now worrying about what might be "going on". On the other hand, if it is something other than liver failure due to alcoholism, he and I might get a bit more support.
I cannot work out how I feel or what I should be thinking .
Im glad your husband has seen a consultant. Try not to project on the outcome and just for today take the positive, and it is a positive.....which you said yourselfOn the other hand, if it is something other than liver failure due to alcoholism, he and I might get a bit more support.....
Aloha Tish...For me this was work within the first three steps of the Al-Anon Program which simply stated comes out to I can't, God can, I'll Let Him (God). I learned to do my part and turn the rest over that way I get to help others and myself at the same time and did I need help!! Keep coming back ((((hugs))))
I dont live with the A, but I know he was vomiting for at least the past 6 months off and on. Of course he never took care of it , and Saturday, he hemorraged from a stomach ulcer, and from vomiting, ruptured his esophogus, he almost bled to death.
He is still in ICU, he finally woke up today, and took him off the ventilator, they had to operate on the esophogus, Not that Im trying to alarm you, but these things could be possible with an A, the ICU nurse has seen many cases like this.
If he would have taken care of the ulcer a few months back, he wouldnt have been vomiting and and therefore rupturing the esophogus. There drinking also thins the layer of protection.
You and I have been married a long time to these A's. It is hard to let go after so long a relationship. Mine left 5 years ago. They make you angry but when they are in pain especially from the disease you feel for them. I just saw my AHsober. He hasn't drank in over 20 years. He does't work a 12 step program. He doesn't eat well or exercise. He looks awful. He feels awful but he won't do anything about it. I know that help has got to come from someone besides me. My thoughts are with you.
Thank you all - the empathy and solace I receive from this MIP board never ceases to amaze and comfort me.
Although my A has put me and son through hell, I cannot help but worry about him. I loved the man he was and it is heartbreaking to watch what he has become.
Never mind, I may "wobble" a bit but I mostly I stay strong with the help of RL friends and also my MIP family. You are wonderful - thank you all again.
