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Just how much more can one person take? I have posted before about AH - now in end stages of alcoholism with liver and kidneys affected. He spends all time in bed - doesn't eat - just drinks and smokes. I have to marvel about how much the body can physically take. He still manages to drag himself over to local shop for his brandy and ciggies. Despite my (special needs) son and I taking care of him he is abrasive and unplweasant towards us. I'm not getting any help from anywhere. No-one wants to know because this disease is a great sin - one that is wished not only on AH but on his nearest and dearest too. He is a Catholic, was a regular church goer and Eucharistic Minister, doing a lot to help the church. Now, it seems he is no longer useful, no-one comes near; not even to find out why he is no longer in church. So much for being a Christian!
Now, just to add to my woes, my job is on the line. I am a nurse working in Clinical risk management. The local health service is in great financial difficulty and there is a need to save £33m ($4418700.52). Every department has to make cuts so I have been told my job will no longer exist. This is after 45 years service (I have been at the hospital ever since I left school as a pre-student nurse, then student nurse, qualifying in 1970)
I am devastated. I have my Union supporting me but really, in the end, managers do what they damn well like. I am 61 and need to keep earning for another 4 years to pay off debts my AH has run up (on our joint accounts so, yes, I am liable) I just feel numb and all out of fight.
I know there is not much anyone can do or say but it helps to get it all down. Thanks for "listening"
I am so sorry this new employement stress is upon you. The last 5 years before I retired I was faced with the same situation of jobs being eliminated and layoffs. I decided to turn it all over to HP.
I showed up, One Day At a Time said the Serenity Prayer daily, and trusted that if the job was lost the unemployment and HP would see me thru. It worked
Hi Tish.....yes Ive been reading about the NHS cutbacks, sorry you are having this added stress.
Believe me I know all about it raining c..p, its been coming at me from all directions recently. Im trying to put first things first and let go of the things I cant control....in the most part its working! Like Betty the serenity prayer is a constant with me.
Keep coming back and vent all you like.
Will no one from the church do home visits for your husband.....would he want that? They do home prayer meetings and visits dont they? Maybe theyre waiting to be asked. Take the burden off yourself anyway you can.
Tish, Im sorry your stressed by all that is happening.
I too planned to collect Social Security and work part time. I had a part time job, for awile but was laid off. So, I am loosing my condo after being here for 14 years. Also, I am apart from the A and dont have the 2nd income, but my serenity and health are more important too me.
The xah right now in the last few days, was rused to the hospital , hemorraging and them not knowing where it was coming from, because they couldnt stop the bleeding. Anyway, after 7 transfusions, they were able to find out he had an ulcer and a rupture in the esophagus from long term drinking. They did manage to save his life, this is not his first time that he was close to death, he also had a heart attack 5 years ago, where he almost died. A DUI that cost over 30,000., times they found him passed out in the street. 26 years of drama..
I am glad for him that he survived this one, but the nurse said he can NEVER drink again. Hope it wont turn out that death is his bottom.
Tish, comes a time, we have to let go. No amount of worrying is going to change what you cant control. I thought the XHA was a gonner, but I left it to his HP and to my surprise the Universe is not done with him. A's dont realize they have a mission, and thats to help other A's recover. Just put your faith in your HP Tish and keep coming back and see the Miracles.
