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Okay, so I did a great job on a project at work, if I do say so myself - and I do! ;)
Today, the manging partner of my firm sent an email to the entire firm recognizing the good job on the work that was done but attributing it to another partner. The managing partner called it "better than gold" and told the partner good work. In reality, the partner that got the recognition had delegated the project to me to handle, and I did almost the whole thing by myself.
I'm trying to decide what to do ... be assertive and speak up and say that I did the work, which is something the pre-program Summer would never have even imagined doing because it would call attention to myself, or do nothing because it is my ego that wants the recognition. Or wait for a bit and see if the partner that wrongfully got credit sets the record straight?
What now!???? Anyone have any thoughts? I want to practice the principles in all my affairs - I just don't know what the right things is.
What to do.??? This happened to me a few years ago. I was asked to create this small womens chorus and do chose whatever song and a little choreography.
I chose the song, did the harmonies, created the choreography and this went on for about 6 weeks of rehearsal, this elderly woman who is a retired Musical theatre professer, took all the credit and put me in the background and took all the credit the day of performance. It was not a professional performance but a faith performance for a womans peace seminar organization I belong too.
I was torn like you, although it didn't include pay or promotion I was dissapointed. I swallowed my pride and ego and said nothing, but now that I look back on it, I wished I had said something, it also made me question the organization and the people in it and I have finally backed way off from these people and their cause.
I would say something to the partner and ask him if he is going to clear it up and tell them that if they dont, you will. Speak up!! This is an injustice. Otherwise, it just continues. Thats my opinion, only because you asked. lol , good luck Bettina
-- Edited by Bettina on Wednesday 9th of June 2010 08:31:22 PM
Gosh, I understand how you feel. I don't consider it ego on your part. You worked your tail off, were laying on the battle field exausted and proud of what you had accomplished. You didn't expect a raise or a star in your crown, all you expected was a well deserved pat on the back. I think it probably says more about the partner who received all the credit, than it does the managing partner. He was probably now aware of who did the work load. The ego lies with the partner you did all the work for.
You will get more chances to show your talents. To pharaphrase the great poet Walt Whitman: When you work for someone who does not see or recognize your worth, work all the more harder, even if he does not admit your ability someone else will see and you will eventually be rewarded.
I have never been in a situation as you describe.......Oh.......but I can think of lots of things you could do and say.......but none of them would be practicing the Al-Anon principles. LOL.
I don't know, I'm not sure, and I would never offer you any advice, but I am reminded of an old saying "Let a sleeping dog lay" and also one of my favorite slogans, "How Important Is It".
HUGS and a well deserved pat on the back from me for a job well done. RLC
-- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 9th of June 2010 09:38:19 PM
I can understand your frustration but wouldn't do anything for a few days, at least. Let your own feelings have time to calm down and give the partner a chance to speak up. I've spent over 30 years in the business/corporate world, and it's so easy to make a wrong step, even for the right reasons. A lot depends on your relationship with the partner as well as the firm, your long-term intentions (is this a career position for you?), and where you currently are on the totem pole. You always have to pick your battles - is this one you feel impacts you long-term?
In the meantime, you did the right thing by venting here in a safe place. I predict that a few days will give you some perspective and insight on what to do next.
You know, after being so beat down for so long, getting into Al Anon, I started standing up for me. Remembered ME.
I have shared I even forgot to do my eyebrows...
So it is my experience, part of taking care of myself is to not allow anyone to step on me again. There is right and wrong. If this was happening to your best friend what would you tell them?
For me I always stood up for myself. I worked with those at risk kids I have shared. It was important to me to be a good example. I wanted them to learn to take care of themselves, to be proud.
There is nothing wrong for standing up for you.
I would go to my co worker, ask them,"Hey what should be done about the boss misunderstanding that the job done was mine?"Not saying you to them.
No one is going to take care of us, but us. Al Anon was very important in my journey to have integrity. Part of that is being true to me. A major thing in AA on the chips says,"To thine own self be true."
I feel soooo much better when I speak up. Even if it does not change anything, I do not want any regrets.
hugs! This was a great share, never seen it here before.love,debilyn
In my humble opinion you have the right to speak with the manager to set the record straight in the event he's been mislead. I understood this program to be one where we don't speak poorly of others but learn to finally stand up for ourselves and our best interest as long as no one is harmed in what you share. Clearly with the economy in the situation it is in, it would (I feel) be best to speak the truth not for the glory and back pats but in private so that management should they find a time when they must let one of you go for whatever reason will have the correct information. I would however ask my HP and sponsor for their feedback.
Thanks, guys. I still don't know exactly what to do, but waiting a couple of days to do anything at all is probably best. That way I can cool off a little bit before the next step. I feel like it is important because I'm up for review in the next couple of weeks.
Thanks again - I love that this is a safe place to bring things that are concerning me. :)
Well, you have to give the partner that had the original assignment credit. He/she delegated very well to the person who did a fabulous job on it. This will be a good way to see if your peer is a team player or not for future reference if nothing else.
Is there any way you could make a point by point list of the major projects you have been part of since your last review and highlight what you put into this particular one for your review regardless of what happens with the partner? I do this for myself when evaluating where my time has been spent every so often.
Okay, I think I'm over being angry. I'm grateful that I have integrity and that I would've handled the situation differently.
Thanks, MIP friends, for giving me a constructive outlet for my anger! I spent about 30 hours working on that project. While I reeeeeally wanted to march into the partner's office and say, "Nice work on that motion, Asshole!" all that would happen is that I'd get fired. It's not worth it. If I decide that my review is not going as well as I would've liked, I can matter of factly bring up that I did the project without blaming the partner for taking credit. If the review goes fine, I can just let it go.
Well its understandable that the partner got credit for it. As I am sure in any workplace everyone knows things get delegated. I would hold on to the memo and bring it up when you go for your annual review. This acknowledgement shows you are indispensable.
I'm 100% with Maresie on this one.... You doing good work IS good work on the part of your boss, for delegating it to you..... The work you did on the project is a 'feather in your cap', and will be attributed to you - all in due time.
Take care Tom
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