The material presented
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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Sometimes it's still pretty hard for me not to take on other people's moods. I have to really remind myself that just because someone else is grumpy and stressed, I don't need to be grumpy and stressed. I'm still working on this, though - today I had lunch with my husband and started to let his bad mood become MY bad mood. I told myself 3 or 4 times that I wasn't in a bad mood before lunch and didn't have to be in one now just because he was! Still, I kinda FELT grumpy after lunch.
I'm still a work in progress, but I'm grateful that I'm beginning to recognize these things when they happen. Before the program, someone else's bad day might've completely destroyed my own day. This time, even though I felt kinda grumpy, it passed quickly and I felt very encouraged that I actually noticed what happened and was able to redirect. THAT is absolutely amazing to me - a far cry from life before the program!
YAY White Rabbit! I know exactly what you mean. Using our tools to continue on with our day and not take on other's moods is a great feeling for me. I'm not always perfect at it but it's getting alot easier and more natural for me too.
Great share. We are all works in progress and it is so very powerful to be able to use alanon tools and respond differently in a situation where we use to be destroyed.
Thanks for your share
-- Edited by hotrod on Monday 7th of June 2010 08:10:49 PM
