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Ness


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I heard the news today that my son has been given a deferred sentence. His solicitor and the judge believe he is sick not bad. Alcoholics are so often treated as the lowest of the low and the disease so misunderstood that I was prepared to hear the worst.

I wasn''t invited to join the melee which shows me that a boundary placed is being respected by him, and whereas before I would have jumped in, uninvited,  all guns blazing, I have remained detached from the whole process, there are higher powers than me in control.

I prayed every day that he would have would have a compassionate judge and that he would be helped rather than punished.  A welfare and support network has been put in place for him..... he has been given 6 months to show he is willing to change.

Without this programme I would have been immersed in his whole drama to the detriment of my health and serenity. I have been able to show him love and compassion without trying to control any outcomes.

I'll continue to pray every day he will find the courage to change.


Me? I cant say I recognise myself these days but Im willing to get to know me better.

 ((((((((hugs))))))))))

Ness x  



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buick23


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I know it is not easy to be detached. I think you did great. I love your last sentence.

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hotrod


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(((Ness))

I am so happy that your son was treated with respect and kindness.  I too will continue to hold him in my prayers. 

The courage to change is certainly up there for all of us.  Before alanon I never thought it took courage to change.

How wrong I was



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GailMichelle


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Ness,
You're doing a wonderful job.  I'm so happy that your son is given an opporotunity to change.  He can!

Take care, Gail

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soxfan


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Sounds like you are doing good. Happy to hear that it worked out that way with your son. I will pray to send a little extra courage his way

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RLC


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Ness,

This was a wonderful story of HP and the program teaming together. I'm happpy for you and your son.

When you get to know yourself better...I bet you like what you see.

HUGS,
RLC

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Oh good for you. I know it has to be so hard. It's great he is getting help. That may be a major key for him.

thank you for letting us know Ness. love,debilyn

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Ness


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He has been shown much support over the years, many people want sobriety for him, they see in him the good he can't see in himself. Only he has the power to change......he has to want it ..........enough. Thanks all .......love this family. xx Ness

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((((Ness))),

I am so glad the judge showed compassion & understanding for your son. Good job on staying out it. I will continue send love & prayers for you and your son.  Good luck on both of your recoveries.  Much love and blessings to you and your family.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty smile

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