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So 2 days getting along fine. Today he's upset about who knows what and took it out on me. So I left the house for a while. My daugther told me he 'must be on his period'.
What a great way to see it I'm not worried about it. He does do strange things when he's mad. Got mad about pizza so he turns the ac all the way down. Makes no sense.
Does anyone else have any strange things like this to share?
Alcoholics like to share thier pain ... if thier having abad day they spread it around with a crappy attitude . dont take it on enjoy your pizza and turn up the air conditioner to please yourself . If he starts something a simple I'm sorry your having a bad day , and walk away works ..
Yes Buick I have bad days also, but I try not to share the wealth. That's not always the case with the A in my life. I always listen with a concerned look on my face all the while thinking....it's the disease RLC it's the disease. I call that detaching while looking her in the face. If she starts taking her day out on me as Abbyal suggested I smile, say sorry your having a bad day and walk away, senerity intact. The program says "Always take care of yourself first". Who am I to second guess the program. LOL
As far a sharing anything strange, the reality of this disease is just that....strange.
HUGS, RLC
-- Edited by RLC on Thursday 3rd of June 2010 10:20:07 PM
Nothing strange like that, I just get the blunt end of the grumpy mood. If I ask a simple question, I'm accused of giving an inquisition or the 5th degree. I have just decided to instead of apologizing (I didnt do anything wrong) I call him out on his defensive behavior in a calm manner telling him I do not deserve to be talked to that way.
He usually just looks at me as if he just got hit with a load of bricks and just stops. I think it depends on the A you are dealing with and what it takes to get thru to them in a sensible way.
One great thing I learned here is that I don't have to be the target of someone else's bad mood. I've gotten pretty good at saying "I don't have to listen to this, and I'm not going to" then walking away. I'll have to remember RLC's "Sorry you're having a bad day". It sounds so much nicer. And then I'll walk away. Lol!
I'm not worried about it. He does do strange things when he's mad. Got mad about pizza so he turns the ac all the way down. Makes no sense. 