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been down for couple of days but my slips do not seem to be lasting as long My A is of trying to fight the illness he had a slip 3 of days ago. He was very honest with me his sponsor rang and told me , he had been honest with his sponsor too. When my ABF did ring I told him I needed a break to clear my mind. I was upset . He said I only had one can out of the 8. I told him the amount did not matter he must not have hit his rock bottom. I told him I need to take care of me. I told him after last slip I will not be around when he actively drinks. I have followed this through I just can not be around him. I think my self esteem is slowly raising. I will not put myself through the stuff I used to.
I was missing him for the past three days then all of a sudden I realised how nice my life actually is. Its as if I am detached I love him, I have compassion, but there is nothing I can do. He is with his sponsor. I am handing him over. If the what ifs come in I will read. Hope this lasts.
I feel good when I can focus on me. I know he has a long road to travel and so do I we both need to recover. I think we should do this alone and hand relationship over to HP. If its his will it will all work out.
Sounds like you are doing great focusing on you and remebering that it's not how many times we fall, is how many times we get up that matters. Keep it up doll.
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Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable.
The day I realized that life was much much calmer without my "A" around was a very empowering day for me. I also realized it was okay to like the calm without him around.
I am able to focus on myself and our children. The kids like the routine we have now and that they can trust there to be a routine.
Detaching with love is the best thing I ever did for both of us.
Mandy
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"We are not punished for our unforgiveness, we are punished by it" Jim Stovall
