The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have been reading the FAQ section and it says it is for dependents of alocholics. My husband is addicted to narcotics....I need some support b/c I'm driving myself crazy.
Yes you will be able to find tools that will enable you to recover from the disease of addiction that you are dealing with. I am glad you read the FAQ there is a great deal of helpful information there. You are not alone and there is hope
We ae powerless of addiction. We did not cause it, cannot control it or cure it. The best we can do is treat the addicted person with respect while making sure that we take care of ourselves in a constructive manner each day.
We try to live our lives: One Day at a Time, Focusing on Ourselves, Trusting in a Higher Power. Sharing with others, attending meetings (we have on line meetings here 2xs a day) all help to break the isolation and enables us to grow and recover.
Please keep coming back
-- Edited by hotrod on Monday 31st of May 2010 11:15:10 PM
I would like a chance to tell my story and get support. I am a "forum frequenter" and my husband suggested that I try this. I am considering going back to an alanon meeting but thought this might be a good place to start.
My husband has been addicted to pills most of our marriage, much of it was without my knowing so trust and deception are big issues for me. He has been addicted to both tramadol and at the end of last year was taking oxycodone. For him, it is often a coping method. In November of 2009 he had a big wake-up call, I did not know about the oxycodone (which was being taken up to 45 a day) but he tried to forge a prescription, was arrested for a Class C Felony.
Fortunately we were blessed and he ended up with a misdemeanor instead, one year probation, and the charges dismissed afterwards. He has a straight lace record and a good lawyer. He went to rehab in November, and then did the halfway house program. It was a filthy place to live, and I saw his true meaning and intention b/c of it. We live in a beautiful home with all the luxuries. He chose to be uncomfortable to get clean.
He has been sober ever since but I am having issues with "trust". I know that he has to be clean for his probation but everytime he talks to me I criticize the way he talks, the way he moves, the way he looks....looking for the signs of using and deception. He deceived me for so long I can't trust him.
He says he understands that it will be time before I can trust him again, but I know that I can't do anything about what he says and does. I know I am powerless, but how do I stop watching everything he does????
I am glad you are here and able to tell your story. I am so happy that your husband has been involved in a serious treatment program and is working on his recovery. I can readily identify with you and your inability to regain the trust in your marriage. You will find you are not alone in the respect.
Alanon tools have been developed to assist us in regaining ourselves and our ability to relate in a healthy fashion once again. Please try to attend the on line meetings here and look for alanon meetings in your community. Living with addiction we all become ill and need assistance.
Please keep coming back and knwo you are not alone.
This is absolutely the right place for you and we are very glad you found us.
Never underestimate the power of those face to face meetings. The combination of MIP plus your meetings only strengthens you. I found when my husband got sober I need those meetings more than ever. The dynamics of a sober relationship vs. an active relationship is very different.
The best thing you can do for your husband's recovery is to turn him over to his HP and leave his recovery to him. Concentrate on yours. I learned that lesson the hard way.
I wish you both contionued success in your recoveries. We look forward to having you here. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty <--the cat
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