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So since my last post we still have not had a talk, he's been spending most of his time away or outside. I have not complained about a thing. Last night we were supposed to have dinner together. Needless to say that did not happen. He came in to eat 2 hours after I ate. I hate to eat dinner alone.
This morning I sat down behind him and put my arms around him just to be close. He tells me he has to get things done so he got up. When I asked what he needed to get done he said he doesn't know.
He left without letting me know he was leaving. That leaves me frustrated.
Seems he either doesn't want to be close to me at all and starts arguments so he has no reason to be close and when there is no reason not to spend some time together he finds things to do to leave.
I'm starting to wonder if he has issues with any kind of affection for whatever reason or he's seing someone else and just doesn't want it from me.
So either way, I get nothing. Any esh?
Or does he hate himself that much that he can't stand to allow any sort of connection with me?
Hi Buick, ok take what ya want, slap me about the rest! (c:
Your vent said you told him you might as well move out and he can stay home.
If I believed that, I am sure he did too! Remember we are to stand behind what we say or not say it?
Read all you do is fight, do not want to stay with someone who you only argue and fight with.
I am confused.
He is an A. To try to figure him out is impossible. Actually trying to figure out anyone is impossible.
We cannot know anyone 100% If you go by your relationship and how he responds, what do those responses tell you in themselves?
If someone distances from me, that tells me they do not want to be around me for whatever reason. It is apparent.
Do I want to live with that? no way. I would not call that person a friend at all.
I learned from this group to not say things I don't mean and will not follow thru with.
Sometimes actions mean so much more than talking. Many A's cannot express themselves. They honestly do not know.
I would invite you to take care of you I know of all people what it is like to be alone. BUt I tell ya it is 200% better than going thru what you are. I was there too.
The serenity, the peace, the hope, is so HUGE and gets better and better. I learned again it is ok to be alone and I am ok.
For you, there is hope of a new love someday when you are ready. Someone who is a true friend and would not think of treating you badly.
It is hard but I tell ya, sometimes we need a push to get out there and realize our strengths.
I am here for you no matter what you choose to do.
