The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I stepped out of my madness and reached out to a dear friend of mine who gave me some wonderful advice..
I realized some of the things I was doing wrong in the program I was taking on too much... I was practicing detachment, setting up boundaries,find my HP and focusing on myself (of course there is more) all at the same time...
When I was talking to my friend I was telling her how angry I was how I wish I didn't carry around all this anxiety.. She turned around and said give it to your HP?!!? This was confusing to me since I was so focused on giving my A's issues to MY HP that I really felt guilty for giving him my issues because I thought I was asking too much... She then explained to me how HP works and I got it.... = )
I'm now going to focus on one thing at a time and not setting myself up for disappointment....
I must not be a good multi-tasker, lol, and I'm okay with that!
This whole Al anon program is definitely a work in progress and it's true it works if you work it...
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Courage is not a roar. Sometimes Courage is the small voice at the end of the day that says "I'll try again tomorrow"
Great Insight . I hear that you did not want to "Overburden your HP with your problems That is very familiar. I thought that it was ok for everyone else to ask their HP for help but I did not want to trouble mine. You had a great and powerful awareness. Now you can truly Focus on yourself with your HP's help and grow.
My wise sponsor pointed me to the slogans as a short cut to the steps and growth I found that these tiny sayings became and still are my life line.
When I became confused I reminded myself to "Keep It Simple", Easy Does It When I Felt Rushed and Controlling I said: First Things First When I became Fearful or anxious I reminded myself to: "Let Go to Let God" When I began to think about the past or project horror to the future I reminded myself to: Live One Day At a Time
The most important was when I started looking at others and judging and becoming angry I reminded myself to : Live and Let Live I had to learn to LIVE myself with HP's help
You are doing fine Life is about the journey not the destination
with your problems That is very familiar. I thought that it was ok for everyone else to ask their HP for help but I did not want to trouble mine. You had a great and powerful awareness. Now you can truly Focus on yourself with your HP's help and grow.