It has been over a week! - Al-Anon Family Group

Hoot Nanny · ~*Service Worker*~

It has been over a week!

wp · ~*Service Worker*~

kathleen, it's ok to vent and to be honest . Prayers for your progress and for caring for yourself. I really do know what you mean.
wp

pineapple · ~*Service Worker*~

I can definitely relate to the cussing thing when I am frustrated and/or stressed out. For some reason it's a kind of release, at least for me. Stressful times are part of life, but they are even more stressful when you are tired. Don't worry about complaining, that's what we're here for-to listen when you need to let off steam. Keep trying to stay positive and come here to vent when you need to. Please take advantage of your weekend and try to get some rest and take care of yourself. (((Kathleen)))

Tattyhead · Senior Member

Do you have another bed/room you can sleep in? Sometimes it's the only way to sleep undisturbed. Lack of sleep does nothing for your mood/temper/negativity. You do need to take care of yourself. Don't be hard on yourself for feeling like this occasionally - most of us have been there.

maresie · ~*Service Worker*~

For me personally the swearing tends to make me feel worse. At that point I'm exhausted. That's a signal for me to take a step back and regroup.

My serenity is worth working for these days. I can relate to being over tired, cranky, frustrated, alone and fed up. I personally had to find ways to take care of myself irregardless of what other people did. I went to bed earlier, I lay down in the dark, I took care of myself and put some things on hold.

Maresie.

Ness · ~*Service Worker*~

Kathleen, Maresie said it for me......... when I get to the swearing stage its time to regroup, which is what I need to do right now.............theres a lot of fn swearing going on in my camp too and its setting me back to a place I dont want to be..........f..it!!!!

(((((hugs))))))

Ness x

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

Yes, I remember you posting last week about not having enough sleep.

I use the f word a lot, not as much as I used to since Im apart from the XAH, and my sleep is not disturbed. I think I told you that I was married 26 years and the A's snoring got really serious. So we had seperate bedrooms for many years, it prevented me from going to jail , as I had fantasy's about buying a gun and shooting his nose off

seriously, they say in Alanon we cant expect to do the same thing over and over and get different results. This appears to becoming a huge problem, so this is the time to live in the solution. Good wishes to you.

Bettina

xeno59 · ~*Service Worker*~

I totally relate to the no sleep and to put it mildly the mood swings. When my son is home and using I feel like I have to be on alert at all times ( not alanony I know ). But when he is using he stays up for days, disprupts the house as he wanders around and apparently doesn't realize that noise travels. But I feel the compulsion to stay awake as long as he is awake as he has overdosed on sevral occasions, left things ( stove ) on, stumbles up and down the stairs. lets just say it is all not conducive to sleep.
Once he passes out I am finally free to take a nap... but in the living room so that I knoow immeditaly when he is awake again.
I find the no sleep also leads to no eating ( and I can't afford to lose anymore weight), and become extremly irritable. I can't even imagine what the neighbors have heard me yelling on occasion.
My son has been in jail for quite a few months now and I sleep like a baby. my mind starting slowing getting back to normal and I was able to totally able to throw myself into the program. As awful as it may sound whether Jail ( he is on thier rehab unit) is working for him or not it has caused a serene lifestyle for me and hubby. I can now make decisions that are rational and because of the program can make decisions that are best for us.
We have told our son upon his release he will not becoming home this time. A thing we have threatened a thousand times in the past but always gave in. But we have secured him a bed in a sober living home. What he chooses to do with that is up to him.
But I also found that with him out of the house I have dreams for my future that I would like to pursue and I feel I have the right to do that.
Please don't think we don't love our son. He is the light of my life no matter what he does.
But I cannot live with the chaos, the worry, the lack of sleep etc anymore.
I wish you well and I wish you some rest... our minds don't think clearly with lack of sleep.
God bless

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