In June I sent a note to my alcoholic husband of 14 year's sister.

i thanked her for her past kindness to me and told her that I had left her brother.

Under advisement of my therapist and from talking to people I did not tell her why.

She called me when she got the note and we talked briefly

On Sunday I got a call from his sister saying the family had not been able to get in touch with him, did I have some numbers they could call.

I gave them his cell and his home number and his address.

She asked for my address too and I gave it to her - she says my sisters-in-law want to send me a note.

She said when was the last time I heard from him and I said a week ago.

I said I am pulling into my apartment, let me put my bikes away and I will go over and see if he is alive.

So i went to my old apartment and opened the door to the chain and called his name.

he answered and let me in.

I said that his family and I were worried about him as his phone did not answer.

he said his cell phone did not work.

Codependednt that I am I started to tell him to go to the phone store in the mall then stopped myself. His broken cell phone is his stuff not mine.

Then I asked him where the home phone was and he got it.

I said, now keep that phone with you.

he said oh, then I should start using this phone instead of my cell phone?

I said, yes, very good idea.

And I left.

I called his sister back and asked her if she knew he was an alcoholic and she did. She told me that her mother had chosen drink over having her daughter help her when she broke her hip.

I told her drinking was not a choice for an alcoholic and she said this she knew.

I suggested alanon but she said she had already coped with things (NOT)....

I told her that her brother was very very sick and dying and yellow. I thought his family should know.

I have an appointment with a lawyer Wednesday to find out my legal obligations

megan