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The good news is that AH hasn't been drinking for over two months now. But we seem to be having trouble adjusting to the whole situation of him being sober. I want him to make some decisions as I'm tired of making all the decisions for the last year. He has a lot of projects and things going on, but when it comes to major decisions he still wants me to make them. Or he makes a decision and wants me to agree with him even when I don't. He'll ask my opinion and if he doesn't like my answer he'll keep asking me over and over, until I finally agree with him just to get him to leave me alone about it. I know that's not the right thing to do, but I can only take so much before I run out of energy to try and make him understand my feelings. So I still have a lot of work to do on me. But I feel positive that we'll work this out in time. Whatever problems we're having, it's still better than when he was too drunk or hungover to be involved in anything. So things are good/bad but I truly believe they will get better in time. I just have to remember to take care of myself first and keep in touch with my HP and everything else will work itself out.
Oh Yay!!! for you both. HP is doing that HP thing. So exciting and whats more Pineapple is still growing. Keep fertilizing what you've planted in yourself girl and keep refusing the invitations to control...He'll get it or he'll drink over it. Thats his decision and then too he just might have had his last one and is trying to find his way thru the maze with the only cane he's ever had...you. A sponsor would be nice...HP knows what's needed...keep your eyes open. Yahhhhoooo (((((hugs)))))
Yay!! I'm so glad to hear that you're doing well! Good news about your AH as well!
Remember - EASY DOES IT! Early sobriety is different from active alcoholism, for sure, but it was a long ways from the picture of perfection I had in my head about what life would be like when my AH got sober. It's hard! Be patient while you are both so early in recovery and learning how to live sober.
What good news! Continue working your program, you are an inspiration to me and others as well. The last sentence in your post says it all. Taking care your yourself first and letting HP do the rest. I needed that reminder this morning. Thanks
HUGS, RLC
-- Edited by RLC on Saturday 1st of May 2010 11:50:05 AM
