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Hi all and thank you for your words of support and experience regarding my Abf-sober's son and possible pot abuse. Turns out he did in fact smoke pot a couple of times. My bf confronted him and gave him a chance to be honest. He fessed up and is "on lockdown" now --as he calls it--until the end of the school year. my bf has told me that he plans on having him tested in a month or so when he gets his check up and if it comes up positive he will put him in a rehab. We also make him sit with us and watch the show "Intervention" every time he's over. It seems to be making a positive impact with him, my bf has also sat him down and talked to him about being an addicted teenager, sharing his own experiences. Keeping my fingers crossed....
thanks again for all your support!
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"Change is the essence of life. Be willing to surrender what you are for what you could become."
This is good parenting. Its good to be on top of it. We cant do anything about an adult addict, but we do when they are minors.
My brother took control of his son when he was 14, he just divorced and my nephew started too think he had authority over himself and started smoking marijuana. Was expelled from school, just started going down the wrong path.
My brother took became(pardon the expression, like a fly on his A...) He was in touch with his teachers, wanted his assigments faxed over to my brother. Knew where he was at all times, and would go and find him and pull him out of a crowd. My brother had radar. It became the goal of "you will graduate" what you do after 18 is your business, but right now you are under my rule.
Well, I can tell you the results was, he graduated, he is 24 today, married responsible, He stopped hanging with the bad crowd by the time he was 16, he has a baby and he is the greatest man today. Kids need to know they are loved and that takes discipline and constant vigilence. It takes guts to be a parent today, they have friends already, they need a Parent. Thank you for letting me share.
