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Well I tink it is pretty correct to say, my ex will do what he can to knock me down, more so if I try and let him see im moving on, getting strong, and keeping firm boundaries with him. He felt the need to leave a message on my phone last night, because I was not answering his calls. He felt the need to let me know I am wrong, he is a good man, he is staying with his ex helping her with his two year old girl, because his ex's Mum is in hospital. He has told me in the past how his ex throws herself at him and is needy, he knows I get insecure around them both as he left me for her once when we first got together, she has rang constantly and interferred when me and him were together, and caused a whole lot of trouble, so he knew this would get me. I didnt respond apart from a quick email stating that I had asked him not to contact me, and so what if he is staying at his ex's, and I didn't need to know, so it is all the more reason for me to not want contact, and that there is nothing to talk about if he is not going to go for mediation anyway, to get access to the baby. Short and sweet, im pleased with myself for that. Inside im screaming! Again the goal of getting on my feet for myself and my children seems to have moved a little further back.
Aloha Ajay...Find a home group in Al-Anon and plant yourself there where you can grow bright and strong. Your post reminded me of when I woke up in the program and the light went on and I found myself saying to myself "It was never mean't to work. I started off with the wrong choice." Keep coming back (((((hugs)))))
AJ the disease is still controlling you. I know how it feels! ug
My suggestion of esh is, delete his messages ad do not read them! Would you grab a knife and stick into your gut? When we read their messages, talk to them (the disease) it is like when the a takes a "little" drink.
It only makes us sick, as you just said. It is good you are thinking of your own kiddo's. Go find some sunshine and stay out of that pit! (o: love,debilyn
