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If you have had enough stop jumping when he says jump- keep it real simple. My sister and I did that with Mom- we let her be- sure enough someone else came along and picked her up. Imagine that, now, huh?! hugs, J.
I agree wholeheartedly with Jean4444 ... you don't have to jump when he says jump. Getting kicked out of rehab and the consequences of that are his responsibility.
I agree with both of the above statements. He's the one that got thrown out of rehab. It's up to him to find a way home.
After I started Al Anon, I gradually quit doing a lot of the stuff that I used to do for my alcoholic husband and told him I wasn't going to do his stuff anymore. It was his stuff and his responsibility. He didn't like, but does take care of his own stuff now. It's funny how when we keep treating them like children, they dont' grow up. But when we stop letting them be kids, they do sometimes grow up.
I've heard that most alcoholics/addicts stop growing emotionally when the addiction takes hold. I figure that means that my husband was about 19. So now after 4 years for sobriety, I think he's done well and probably made 25 or 26.
You did good, you didnt go when it was not reasonable to go.
Hope he stays sober, looks like he doesnt like the withdrawal.
No matter what happens when he gets out, be sure and take care of yourself. Detach and stay in your own lane. Remember , "We are powerless over them" Wishing you strength , courage and hope.
