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It's been awhile since I have posted....I am having one of those days that you know is from living with addiction for so many years.
Things were going well, my daughter has no patience for anything....it's almost like the addict that wants it now and their own way and nothing else matters except for what the addict wants.
I am extremely worried about her, she was in an accident awhile back and she is abusing her pain pills.....I took them from her......as we know that is how it all begins...I was thinking I had it under control...now I know better than that....however, here I go again...sometimes I think she is just overwelmed with live...being a teen mom going to school and working part-time is a full plate but no excuse as i know already. She does have me to help her along the way.
I worry about some of the choices my son makes with friends, however he is 18 and I can only pray he makes the right choices.....he seems to have found a nice girl he really likes and i am happy about that. He usually just goes out once or twice with them and dumps them....this one however he has actually asked to the prom...huge for zach....I can really see the growth in my son he is becoming a man and I see that. I am very proud of him.......however, my daughter is taking a toll on this home and i have to help her....the father of her baby is a piece of shat....he does not bother and i can see it breaking my daughters heart....i try and tell her don't worry we love her but she has her own mind set.
I was really feeling that my family was going to be ok finally........I am trying to set back and let my children grow it's hard at times.....but i must just let it take its course and be here to support them no matter what she is 19 and she has to make her own choices......I just can not let her take the house down with her.
I know that i can not make choices for anyone...I just pray they make the right ones for themselves and God guides them in the right direction.
With love, Andrea
-- Edited by Andrea12 on Saturday 10th of April 2010 07:34:28 PM
Always remember you are doing the best you can at any given moment. Life can be overwhelming for all of us. I wish I could tell you what to do for your daughter. Not being a parent I can't. You are smart enough to know what to do and what not to do. Sometimes you just have to step back and let them do what they feel they are compelled to do. It's hard. (I am by no means suggesting you let your daughter destroy your life.)
I have a friend who keeps asking me for the same advice over and over again. She is in a destructive relationship and knows it. She is not yet ready to make the really hard choice she has to make. All I can do is step back, turn her over to her HP and hope she makes the correct decision soon. I have great faith that she will when she's ready. Hopefully your children will do the same. Much love and blessings to you and your family. Kiss the granddaughter for me.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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