The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Travelling back from the funeral of my sis-in-law last week, a long 600 mile trip, my Ason was foremost in my thoughts. Love and loss, funerals trigger many things. I was thinking I feel a bit stronger now in Alanon, maybe I will tweak the boundary a bit and let him come home for a weekend.
Well around a 100 miles from home we stopped at a shop to buy milk and bread , husb went into the shop and I waited in our motorhome......I watched as 2 young men swayed towards the shop. As they got closer I could tell they were very very sick As. One stayed outside the shop and proceeded to pace up and down, pulling at his hair talking to himself running in and out of the shop to tell his friend to hurry up with the drink cos he was going mental! I just started crying .......
The boundaries are tightened, Im glad we stopped for milk.
(((((( Ness ))))) You are worth the boundaries u set. I know how hard it is and how u wish things could be different. Eventually, as u maintain your boundaries people will learn how to treat you based on u following through and your own self respect. I did not relax the first boundary I set for over a year... I didnt need it anymore at all and that became obvious to me. When I gained emotional detachment and stopped trying to rescue others - was when I didnt need it anymore. Take your time, it will become clear.
Remember that u are greiving right now, that too is a process & takes time. I'm sorry for your loss.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
You are an inspiration to me (you all are), thank you for reminding me about boundaries. Sometimes I don't know if I am doing the right thing, but I am trying to do the best I can, as we are all trying to do.
In years past I didn't understand that sometimes "love is not enough" I understand it all too well now.
