That is huge mary! I am so very happy for you. No longer allowing others to control you and your emotions.

I used to be like you were too. Sadly after my husband was killed my two kids and I moved into this nice little house, in a nice little neighborhood, next to an orgre woman.

She made all the neighbors miserable. Turned on our water when we were gone, put dog poop under car door handles, started fires, cut our flowers down....

She called my kids Niger lovers. scuze that hateful word. I had a wonderful Afro American friend.

She stole things off our porch.

Anyway Mary I saw this older teen go by her house once and she was evily yelling at him. He went along and picked flowers along her hedge and tossed them at her.

I thought,"I wish I was like that, not taking in anything she said." I would cry and feel so hurt.

Actually when she called my kids that above I lost it. I marched over there and let her have it. NO cussing, just adamently told her to knock it off, and not to dare talk to my kids. She pushed me off her porch. The police came over and talked to her for the millionth time.

She then started the house behind her in a huge fire.

Police said used to be they could take people like that and lock them up.

My point is Mary, it changed my life. I found my power, my voice. Realized what my mother said was true, when we allow others to make us made or hurt us etc. we give them control over us.

No one blind sides me anymore. My first thought would be geez what is THEIR problem? I am soooo glad you found your power, you love you, not allowing anyones bs to control you.

You have come far since my Mary who was invisible as her A was allowing others in your home, telling her what to do and not to do.

The mary who was so horribly upset about not having her animal family, who grew the strength to take one step at a time to get them back.

Mary you amazing to me.I know you will accomplish all you set your mind to.

hugs,debilyn