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It's been a bit of a time here lately, at christmas I caught swine flu gave it to my husband, and that caused him to have acute liver failure, his buisiness is struggling in this ressesion, and then his mother passed away suddenly,so this week we had the funeral, my husband is in recovery and after the funeral the family went for a meal, that was myself, husband, daughter, son, and sister inlaw, it is a very rare accasion that we shared such a day, and know what? it was lovely, our daughter said after "mum that was one of the best days we ever had all together" and it truly was.
I have worried myself soft over the years that what my children have lived through was all my fault,and I have damaged them beyond repair, I have tried to guide them as best as I can, at times talking the talk and being unable to walk the walk myself, but you know what? while I'm talking, their walking and all together we are walking the walk!
This reminds me to please try not to think too far ahead of myself, and if I wait quiet a miracle will unfold before my very eyes, I didn't blink this week and I witnessed one! Oh my Katy x
I surely can relate to your post. My family of origin seems so dysfunctional at times I often avoid them, and I thought I had ruined my son's life who is now 28 years old... but we come together, most times related to a tragedy, and the spiritual washing that gets done between us is amazing. Today I have a great relationship with my son, and I don't avoid my family of origin.
HP has given me the opportunity to see that I wasn't powerful enough to ruin anyone's life, nor was my family so sick after I stopped dissecting them with my ol' mighty mind. We are family, and while it sometimes hurts, the love is rarely diminished once we are willing to let go of the wounds and resentment.
John
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" And what did we gain? A new life, with purpose, meaning and constant progress, and all the contentment and fulfillment that comes from such growth."
Bless you John, what I find so humbling is? what I thought were my weaknesses I can call upon for my strengths, I don't always like that I do what I do or think what I think but, as I live and breath and live and learn, and unlearn, reminds me that? we don't always get what we want but always what we need, and we can have triumph over tradgidyxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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