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I had tried everything to survive a marriage to an alcoholic. Denial, Pretend, Counciling. When the pain of being powerless drove me to alanon and i had to admit I was powerless over this disease I was humbled into acceptance.
What a great gift Humility turned out to be It is so very powerful and I am so very glad I attained it Humiluty is the road to freedom
Aloha Tulsa...great a service walker and using HP as a lantern holder. You can't fail with that process. For me the first perception was that humility and humiliation were the same thing...NOT!! an early sponsor said. Humiliation is what I got from trying to do the impossible which was figure out and then cure the alcoholic and beat the disease. I agreed that is what I felt when I first entered the rooms. Humility on the other hand is being "teachable" (same sponsor and still accepted) not above learning and/or being taught. I am a scrapper when it comes to doing the impossible like beating the disease so being teachable is not a step down its a step up. Hope your meeting is grand. (((((hugs)))))
Mine was pretty simple... walking through the doors of Al-Anon, which was admitting to myself (finally) that I needed help, and couldn't deal with this alone..... That humility was tested over & over within those doors, as I also learned to listen (instead of just talk), and that when I did listen, I could actually learn from each and every person there....
Enjoy your meeting!
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Humiltiy was a tool I learnt from resentment, and smack bang in the middle of that I had to work hard on forgiveness, not only for the a's in my life but also for myself,
I am dyslexhic and always thought I was dog? but now I have realised I am just his puppy!
Ah, I'm a tough nut to crack -- it took death to make me accept humility. The death of my A mother, to be exact.
Up until that point, I thought I had the knowledge and intellect to effectively "manage" the impact of Aism on my life. This despite the obvious evidence of two unhappy relationships with recovering As!
My mother's illness and passing brought my past rushing up into my present at warp speed, and it all collided. Fortunately, it broke through my denial in the process, and I had to accept that I needed help -- and that intellectualizing my problems wasn't the answer.
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Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could... Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. - Emerson
Having to admit Powerlessness over this disease was truly humbling to me. I often mistook my opinions and actions to that of HP and had to admit I am not HP ( big shock to me seriously) I was sure i knew what was best for everyone UGH! How could i know what was best for everyone when my life was totally unmanageable and chaotic.
