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Many of you know that in April 2009 I discovered that all my jewelry had been stolen. It turned out to be the neighbor who helped me when Pipers took sick shortly after Tim passed.
Today I received the court papers for an order of protection for both Pipers and I for a year. She's now a convicted felon w/3 years probation and 2 years to payback the cost of my mother's ring. I see the restitution when it's paid in full. This was a gift for her b/c if we had pictures of the other pieces she would be in jail for over $4000. While it breaks my heart that my nieces will never have any pieces of their grandparents (they were alll melted down), what's done is done.
I was going to go to the sentencing last Friday as a way of putting closure on the whole thing. Instead I decided that I would let the DA speak for me. He also advised me that if I did decided to show up in court her attorney might argue that if I wasn't afraid to show up in court why should I have an order of protection? I had no intention of saying anything to her, but I just wanted to witness it -somehow making it real. At the last minute I decided against it. I detached and turned it over to the DA, judge & HP.
Instead my girlfriend and I decided that we would go to lunch. She's coming off of a nasty relationship so we were celebrating a fresh start for both of us. So after lunch I treated her to a recovery book (she bought lunch) and went to look at paint samples. I'm planning on redoing my apartment. I just got my pictures back that I had reglassed. (An product of Tim's anger when he got frustrated. He never took it out on me.) It feels good to have them back in their rightful place.
This is what recovery is all about. Taking back your life. Letting go and letting HP. It's nice to heal and move on. Slowly but surely life continues as it is intended to. If you're feeling stuck don't worry you'll get out of the mud. Just keep trying. We're your rope slowly and steadily pulling you to safer shores. You don't let go of the rope. Much love and blessings to you and your families. Kiss the critters too!
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Good for you Karilynn...I agree that the best closure to any part of life is Letting go and Letting God...the good, the bad, the ugly. Never found out where HP stores all my stuff LOL...anyway don't want it back. ((((hugs))))
So glad you have closure and such wonderful rewards for a life dedicated to recovery. You are an inspiration to me because you practice the alanon principles in all of your affairs.
(((((Karilynn)))) That was a wonderful share - really full of strength and growth. Congratulations on your progress - I am thankful for all that I am learning from you and everyone here!
This is what recovery is all about. Taking back your life. Letting go and letting HP. It's nice to heal and move on. Slowly but surely life continues as it is intended to. If you're feeling stuck don't worry you'll get out of the mud. Just keep trying. We're your rope slowly and steadily pulling you to safer shores. You don't let go of the rope.
Karilynn,
I am so glad you are getting some resolution in regards to the theft, and are feeling at peace about it.
Your post carried just the message I needed to "hear" before going to bed tonight. I most definitely am holding tightly to the rope , and I am so glad you all are on the other end. Thank you.
Blessings,
Lou
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Every new day begins with new possibilities. It's up to us to fill it with the things that move us toward progress and peace. ~ Ronald Reagan~
Sometimes what you want to do has to fail, so you won't ~Marguerite Bro~
That's amazing. I'm glad you were able to get justice. And good that you took the DA's advice.
I had all my electronics stolen by my landlady. Aprox $2500 worth which I will never see. So many lies and threats. Almost like I had done the deed to myself according to her. I am very naive when it comes to people on drugs. It's best not to know them. I'm just glad there was no violence, only because I did my utmost to avoid it.
Well done, Karilynn. I do so admire your strength and that of many who post here. I just wish that I were that strong. Sometimes I think I will just go under - I don't but I come very near to it. This board helps, more than you can imagine.
So after lunch I treated her to a recovery book (she bought lunch) and went to look at paint samples. I'm planning on redoing my apartment. I just got my pictures back that I had reglassed. (An product of Tim's anger when he got frustrated. He never took it out on me.) It feels good to have them back in their rightful place. 
