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Aloha Family...this morning while getting ready to park my truck before going to a morning meeting I had an affair!! LOL Don't paint your own picture let me do it. The affair was that while preparing to turn across the on coming lane into the parking stall the person I had an affair with was exercising a choice that got him a consequence I wasn't going to own though before program I certainly would have made a full attempt at it. A another male decided to accelerate his moped from where he was to where I was about to make the turn and while I stopped because moving forward would not be a good idea for me or more for him, he decided to stay on the accelerator until his mind must have said, "Not a good idea dude!!". No contact with room for everyone to stay out of trouble but it was wet and he was fast and his brakes finally made his line of travel wiggly and then down he went, with no protective riding clothing so he got marked up just a little bit. I parked got out, helped him pick up a few things that detached themselves from his moped and checked for the damage. He was okay. I told him I certainly would not have accelerated at a larger object that I might make contact with when and if I couldn't stop on a wet pavement. Then I let it go after inventorying my part up to and including helping and was grateful for the day from the second I woke up in the 3rd step prayer. I went into the meeting and got a cup of coffee and let the rest of the membership understand that for me all was okay and that the person I had an affair with was probably making his own choices. He was. 5 cop cars, 2 ambulances, 1 firetruck later it still was what it was and he passed me to take down my license number saying "I would have been better had I not called them." I had mentioned before when he said that was his intention, "You gotta do what you gotta do" and left for the meeting. Swapped info with the police which reminded me I've got a expired license I've gotta take care of an a bumper to replace (none of this having to do with anything here) and thanked the police man for his courteousness. Felt compassionate for the other guy as it seemed obvious that he is one of the using crowd that hangs out in that area and not a part of the local scenery. Turned him over to both of our HPs.
The program made all the difference in how life turns out for me now in comparison to how it use to in the past. Was able to listen and offer support part of which might result in a new member at the Super Saturday AFG meeting. Not my will (any of it) but Thy will be done.
What happened to all of the fear and anxiety I use to suffer from? Don't want any of it back. (((((hugs)))))
You def took the high road, and good for you... You are a blessing to many and that includes me, I enjoy listening to how you see things and conquor them as well.. you are a great guide for many....
Just want to say thanks for sharing, and I loved how you handled your "Affair"...lol... Go For You... Don't know if My strength would have been there, since my son claims, I am at my worst when behind the wheel.. :O But I am working on it :)
chuckles at your closing line . . . which reminds me of Alanon's guarantee "if you find Alanon is not for you, we will refund your misery (anxiety, worry, fill in the blank).
Thanks for ever-sharing Jerry.
Maria
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