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MapleMom


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Hi I am new here and am still coming to terms with accepting the fact that I have no control over my husbands disease, I can not control what days he comes home drunk, I can not control whether or not our next family gathering is going to be a wine fest or not, so I guess I am slowly letting go(tough as nails to do)  tonight I was driving and thinking about my situation and this song by Carrie Underwood "Jesus, take the wheel" starts to play, it just brought me to tears and shook me to the core, it just really fits with my life right now, tonight I felt like I was the one singing Jesus, take the wheel for me, and I felt a new kind of peace with my husband tonight, I actually sat with him and we held each other and I just let go, it feels good, so for today, I had a moment.   I posted a link to a music video for this song to share, not sure if we can do that or not in this forum I just really felt the need to share it.     http://new.music.yahoo.com/videos/--25015253

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Tracy


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I understand your pain it is so hard to see the person you love in pain and not be able to fix it.  But the only perso who can truly fix anyone is HP you seem to understand this.  HP can see around corners and we do not know what life lessons are partners need to learn.  I handed over to HP and thankFully his will for my partner was to go to AA.  It has not been all roses he is still an alcoholic and  always will be.  But for today he is sober and is gaining an understanding of his illness.

I also understand the peace you felt when you handed it over to your own HP.  When I truly connect with my HP the feelings are so peacful.  Please do not loose hope.  I went to an AA convention last year my partner was drinking really heavily.  This year he is sober and attendeing the convention with me.  I would never have believed someone if they would have told me 12 months agao that he would be going with me this year.  Take care of you, and stick with al anon miracles really can happen.

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xeno59


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First of all totally Love that song it has so much meaning for me
My son is an A and letting go has been the hardest thing I have ever had to do, to turn him over to God took me a very long time. But reality is I love him no matter what he does or is and that will never change. I have to believe God has the big picture that we cannot see and I have to put mine and my sons life in his hands.
Blessings to you and welcome

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pineapple


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((((MapleMom)))) This is such a hard time for you right now. But it sounds like you got a message from HP in that song. Im so glad it brought you a little peace.

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Iamhere


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((((Maplemom)))) - thanks for sharing the link!  I'll have a listen as it sounds like a marvelous tool to add to my bag of support.

Know that you are not alone!  We're all here for you and us - one post away!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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