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I have two sisters & one step-sister & one sister-in-law! They are all lovely ladies. They are mostly supportive & very loving for the most part. First, I will start with my older sister who I am trying to reach out to starting today. I have made attempts to call her but havent' been too successful. Today I sent her an email just to let her know how I feel & what is going on with me. Honestly I don't expect a reply from her. I just what to reach out to her. Then there is my baby sister who I adore & who kinda gets me. I have had lengthy conversations with her on the phone which always makes my day! She is a hard-working mother of 3. Two are still living with her & 1 is always in trouble & is a new father & will be 21 in October. Anyway, sometimes I can get her to talk about anything but her problems. I love that about me: I can help make someone's day too by getting into other things that make them feel good. On to my step-sister! Boy, that is a long story! But, I will make it short. She used to always get into trouble, had a child at 15, couldn't settle down. Eventually because her drug use, etc., she ended up in prison for about a year. Now she is a sober member of AA & is so happy she can't stand it! He youngest daughter is 15 now & her oldest son with be 29 this month. I used to get in trouble with her but I always blamed her. I guess I was in denial of the fact that she drug me along on these crazy experiences but I "WAS" there! Do you see what I mean? Now on to my sister-in-law: She entered my life almost 20 years ago. I thought she was special from the start because she accepted me & really loved my brother. When they finally got married, I was a bridesmaid for the first time which made me feel so special! Today I have a pretty good relationship with her but I have one dilemna; she doesn't believe in God. To me that is pretty scary. She is a self-proclaimed atheist. It really bothers me but I never talk to her about it. I probably never will. The alanon program teaches me to accept another's spiritual beliefs & not to try to change them even though I want to. So that is the story on my special sisters! I have grown closer to them because I am willing to put aside differences & just love them. Relationships really matter to me & I value every one I have. I have been blessed with many special friends but they come & go: I believe I will always have my sisters; near or far. Yeah, you can't pick your family but you can pick your friends. And, maybe, I wouldn't be friends with my sisters if they weren't related but who knows? I just wanted to share all this to kinda be a little cathartic & let some of my past hurts go! Thanks to everyone who reads this. You, too, are my sisters & brothers even though we will probably never meet. Kathleen
Hi Sis! Lovely sentiments about your sisters, you are truly blessed. I have one ¨real¨ sister. We love each other, but are very different in temperament, personality, adult life experiences, etc. I made the mistake of talking to her about AH once. She just didn't get it. So I don't mention it anymore. I'm very glad I have a family here to come to for support.
