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oscarmom


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I am new to the board. for many years my husband has been an alcoholic. I tried everything, as we all have at some point. he got a dui a few years ago, that scared him and he stopped for a while. but of course it doesn't last. so I keep attending al anon meetings for myself.

recently he has been drinking more and began drinking at lunch. I figured if I waited it out, eventually work would catch on. not only that he had open bottles of liquor in the car. I asked him about that, what if he got stopped, etc and he said they were hidden. that must be the alcoholic mind at work, can he really think cops don't know how to search a car?

anyway Friday his boss came in his office, confronted him about his drinking and said he would pay for Betty Ford if he would go. it was more than a suggestion, the boss already had his plane ticket for Sunday. as we all know, they never hear anything the spouse has to say but potential job loss scared him. fine by me, whatever gets him there.

he is darn lucky he wasn't fired and he knows it.

he is being evaluated there right now and then we will know how long treatment is. maybe this is the turning point, I feel more hopeful than I have in a while

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maresie


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I'm glad you have found this board. One thing I highly recommend is to get a copy of Getting them Sober (the book).  I can't recommend it highly enough.

Whatever your husband does you can find solace, care, comfort and affinity here.

Maresie.

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Wow!! How so very lucky for him that he has a job and a boss willing to pay for his treatment! And lucky for both of you that he took him up on that offer! Good luck to the both of you.

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QOD

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RLC


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Karen,

I'm glad for you for two reasons. One that your A husband is in treatment and the other that you are already attending f2f meetings. Your husband went to treatment to save his job, and we can only hope while he is there he will realize that he also needs to save himself.

Keep coming back, and keep us posted on your AH's progress. I'm glad you are on board, I'm sure you have lots of ES&H to share.

HUGS,
RLC

P. S. On the bright side--------Think about it you have 30 days to work on Karen !!!



-- Edited by RLC on Monday 1st of March 2010 01:26:07 PM

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N8SMOM


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Enjoy the time that he is away. Get as much out of it as you can. This is the perfect time for you to attend meetings and work on you. Good luck and welcome!

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thanks, I am working on me. also as a side benefit I will wind up with a really clean house. I am one of those people that have to burn off nervous energy. plus, my brain works better in an uncluttered, clean environment

a friend of mine has a husband with a drinking problem. recently he did something to set her off, and she said to me " I was so mad I painted the hallway". I fully understood that comment!

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That is one lucky man , and yeah for his boss .  It could indeed be a turning point . iwish him well . and you will have some time to focus only on yourself and your needs .. Enjoy your time alone and keep going to those meetings , sober or not your going to need them , sobriety is not the answer to all of lifes problems but it sure makes getting thru the tough times a lot easier .. enjoy

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oscarmom wrote:

thanks, I am working on me. also as a side benefit I will wind up with a really clean house. I am one of those people that have to burn off nervous energy. plus, my brain works better in an uncluttered, clean environment

a friend of mine has a husband with a drinking problem. recently he did something to set her off, and she said to me " I was so mad I painted the hallway". I fully understood that comment!


Lol, once again I find I'm not the only one! aww  When the XABF relapsed, I always threw myself into some household project.

Enjoy your time to yourself, and hope your husband is receptive to the tools for sobriety that he will be given in treatment!

 



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