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Thanks to everyone who posted & commented on my last posting. I was very hesitant when I thought about mentioning it. I guess I was nervous that I would be criticized for not totally letting go of that significant date in my long history of dating & marrying alcoholics in the past. I remember every one of them--I often remember birthdays, etc. Sometimes I dwell on all that too much but I am getting better. Do you all have dreams of past relationships? I can't be the only one. Please comment if you have anymore to say. I appreciate what you all said. You are all a blessing to me. I even cried over one of your postings. Then I got a Facebook message from my brother that made me feel really good. He never responds to me on Facebook & he did right away! Thank God for brothers! Kathleen
((Kathleen)) Yes, I sometimes dream of a past relationship. Literally. My exh who rarely crosses my mind when I'm awake sometimes shows up in my dreams at night. And there's an exbf that I think about from time to time. It didn't work out for us for lots of reasons but I think of him fondly and still sometimes miss his friendship. But I don't dwell on it. It's past, over, history. I enjoy the good memories when they surface, and then move on. You said ¨I was very hesitant when I thought about mentioning it. I guess I was nervous that I would be criticized... ¨ I'm glad that didn't stop you from posting. And I'm glad you're feeling better. Keep coming back. You see, it really does help!
Aloha Kathleen...I do that also!! It's normal and natural I found out as long as I have a memory I will remember. I get to choose what I remember and what parts so I go for the good stuff the celebration stuff and I also go for the use of surrender and acceptance for the "love not returned". Every time I have one of those memories ("light the corners of my mind...misty, water colored memories of the way it was." remember that song?") I have it...entertain it and then turn it over with a thanks. I accept that life wasn't ever supposed to be about me getting all of my fantasies and that even "thorns have roses"; from our ODAAT daily reader.
I am also sensitive and today not overly...just the right amount "for me". Today I have no fear about tears and sadness and no barrier against laughter and joy. Keep with your recovery. Life has never been only about the dark parts..the Sun also rises. (((((hugs)))))
