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hi i am all new to this, i have been with my partner for 6 years and he is addicted to alcahol, he is 28 and has been drinking since he was very young, i got with him not knowing he was an addict. he told me about 3 year ago, i was shocked but i knew something wasnt right, i couldnt leave him as i thought everything would be ok how wrong was i , the violence and nastiness started but i put up with it tried to help him but you cant, hes been arrested so msny times because of drink, hes detoxed about 3 times at home, the last time he did it he went to rehab for 5 months at the end i went to his graduation i was very very proud of him stuck by him through it all, could look to the future,. i went on holiday came back and he was drinking GUTTED, that was last year he was a very heavy drinker of cider the love of is life, now he has realised that he cant drink and over past few weeks he has cut down alot and today is the day he had is last drink he lives with his mum while he does this, so fingers crossed, i want my life back and feel like im on my own through this.
Hi and welcome...:) Well you sure are in the right place. It is very typical to lose ourselves when involved with people with addictions. Thru alanon you can find yourself again and get your life back. May I suggest if you can attending one of our on line meetings. They are twice a day here. Please keep coming back and thanks for posting.
I hope your partner is successful in his battle with the disease of alcoholism. The main thing he has going for him is the fact that he realizes he has a problem, that's half the battle. Alcoholism is a cunning, baffling, powerful disease and left unchecked will destroy the mind, body, and spirit of the alcoholic.
Melissa, Al-Anon is for people who are affected by someone else's drinking. Step one in the Al-Anon program states: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol------ that our lives had become unmanageable. I think you will admit you fall into that catagory. When I came into the program I was in the total grasp of this disease, I didn't know which way to turn. It had made me crazy and I had become a person I didn't even like anymore. The disease takes a tremendous toll on us just as it does the alcoholic. Living with the disease causes us to change and we become as sick as the A in our life without even knowing it. That's where the program comes in. It teaches us how to take care of ourself first, and by doing so our life becomes better.
I can only speak for myself when I say getting into the program, making it an everyday part of my life, attending meetings, and coming to MIP on a regular basic has been the single most important thing I have ever done for myself. In Al-Anon there is a slogan that states: "The program works if you work it". For me nothing could be closer to the truth.
In Al-Anon we don't give advice, only our experience, strength, and hope. It is my hope that you implement the suggestion from members of this board, and if you do I can promise you your life will change ---and for the better. You deserve it !!!
Keep coming back, read prior post on this site, attend f2f to meetings ,or online meeting on this site---------You are not alone anymore.
HUGS, RLC
-- Edited by RLC on Friday 26th of February 2010 11:45:30 AM
