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Hi everyone, I have a question. My son is 26 yrs. old and he is the alcoholic. He voluntarily went to the hospital last night and had himself admitted because he is depressed and felt suicidal. He finally admitted he needed help. I thank God for that! He said he had no choice, that he lost everything, no job, no money, and no place to live. After he is released from the 72 hour hold he is going to rehab. I forgot to ask him how long. I'm wondering if he admitted himself out of FEAR of being homeless and if he really is ready to give up the alcohol! I would love if someone would share their thoughts.
Nobody can really know "why", other than him.... In my opinion, the "why" doesn't really matter.... the fact is, he is taking a great first step towards sobriety - something to be thankful for, to be sure!!
Take care Tom
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I have to agree with Tom on this one. Be good to yourself above all and the rest will follow :) I don't think we will ever understand anything about this...... Prayers to you and your loved one in taking his step to sobriety. . Blessings ***
Aloha Roxy...He's doing for him what he thinks needs to be done. He is doing the best he can with what he has at the moment. I pray he will stay with the recovery process and find another member of AA willing to help him on to the journey.
I did what you are doing now also...wondering...wondering...wondering. I got no where with no answers until I found the hotline number for the Al-Anon Family Groups and then went to my first for real meeting (earlier attempt was a disaster...I was really out of control. I was good at it by then. LOL). There is a meeting close to you that has a chair just waiting for you also. Call the Al-Anon hotline number in the white pages of your local telephone book and repeat the title of this thread if someone answers. If it is a recording...follow the directions.
Roxy , does it really matter why ?? Maybe he will hear what he needs to hear to want sobriety for himself . for now he is safe ... the reasons will soon be clear . I sincerly hope for his sake this is it . take care of you he will do what needs to do .
Even if he took the step of getting help for less than perfect reasons it may still help. It would be fun to work on you at real Alanon meetings, make friends and learn how not to get in the way- to let go and let God- to remember you didn't cause it you can't control it and you can't cure it but there are things you can do to get in the way and Alanon may help us learn what those are.
Good luck and thanks for sharing, I needed to remember what I just wrote.
I am always encouraged whenever I see that someone has entered recovery be it Alanon or for addiction. The reason why your son choose to go into rehab doesn't matter. The fact that he's there. Hopefully the seed will be planted and it will continue to grow and blossom. I wish him well. The best thing you can do for him is to continue to work on your recovery. It will help all of you when he gets out. The dynamics of sober relationship (between spouses, between parents & children or friends) is very different from when the person was active. It took me a while to figure that out. I needed my program more when my husband got sober. Continued success to both of you. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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