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Tracy


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I have been going to two alanon meetings a week, I know they are good meetings that follow the principles of al anon.  There are a couple of old timers that talk to us about  the traditions etc dont give advice, no cross talking things like that.

I went to a different meeting last week and people were giving advice to one another and cross talking when people were sharing.  What are we supposed to do in situations like this

I am going to try another meeting tonight as I feel like I need to hear new shares.  I go to conventions and really enjoy hearing shares from new people.
 I went to a one dy one this month and i an going to a weekend one next month with my sober A really looking forward to it I went last year would never have believed he would be going with me this year.

I also wanted to ask what a round up is.  I have never heard this term before is it like a convetion?

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-- Edited by Tracy on Friday 19th of February 2010 01:41:38 PM

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miss lucy


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obviously we dont give advice to each other but what i would say is that if you feel the meetings arent running according to the principles of the programme (not talking over each other, offering advice etc) then find a different one. it will be of no use to you to attend a meeting that undoes all the hard work you have put in so far. you will know in your own mind if the meeting is the right one for you - trust your instincts.

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abbyal


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Hi Tracy , believe it or not some groups are based on cross talk , it is a group concience that they allow it  , if you like me find that uncomfortable find another meeting , it says in our literature that each group is autonamous they can conduct thier meetings the way they choose . I can choose to not attend .
I always felt in a meeting like that , all that was missing was the ash tray in my kitchen and a coffee pot ploped in the middle of the table .  Like it used to be before this program . hehe   A  B$#@h session  with no solutions . 
Yes tracy a round-up is like a convention but generally smaller . all good .

-- Edited by abbyal on Friday 19th of February 2010 06:32:39 PM

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RoseODAT


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Would not reccomend "cross talking" meetings. Had a not so good expirience and it didn't go bad till a year after being there and all because everyone wanted to "help" each other out (as codependens!). They meant well and I still miss the friends I had there, but trying to help each other with each other's business backfired. It was meeting within a club too. The best thing to do is to listen, go by the rules and traditions and just be heard. A trusted sponsor who knows program, however is highly reccomended for everyone who needs one smile

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